Another thread has got me thinking (cutting people out of life), it happened to me and I want to know, was I in the wrong?
Met a fellow mum overseas when our babies were young. Over a few months met up for coffee etc but did not develop a particularly close friendship. She moved back to UK. I also did. We never ever had wine nights or anything.
We kept in touch by phone and text a bit which was nice. Early on me, DH and DC2 at the time went and stayed one night with them. In bed by 10pm. We talked about meeting up again and it was always too hard but I then suggested look sod it, why don't I drive down for the night and see you? Bear in mind I had DC1 and DC4. She said no I will get the train to you - four hour trip! She said at the end of the messages, I need a "mum's night out". TBH this didn't register massively. We 100% made no specific plans, re night out or children/DH being present. In hindsight maybe I should have clarified what exactly she meant.
A few weeks before the visit I text her to make plans and said DH is at [sport he plays every week] until about 7/8ish, as [a big huge sport event, the biggest there could be in the UK] is on that night why don't I pay for you to get a taxi to me from the station (i.e. rather than ship the kids to the station, think she got in about 6ish) and we have wine and takeaway at mine? She went mental, said she was really looking forward to a night out on the town, she couldn't face another children's bedtime bedtime (she had DC4), why can't DH miss sport that day, she was going to cancel. I was so surprised, largely because we had never ever talked about drinking or going out clubbing generally so her reaction stunned me. I replied and said I thought maybe we would be going for dinner and drinks but we hadn't made any plans at all, that I just thought wine and takeaway would be easier with the [big sport event], I hadn't been "out on the town" for years and so it wouldn't be my thing anyway (I just don't like it and I don't even drink now, I lived semi rurally at the time so not London or anywhere exciting). I pointed out that I had offered to drive to her and said I wasn't bothered what we did - I just wanted to see her, which I thought was the point? She said, let's put it off until after the summer when your DH doesn't do sport anymore. I never heard from her again.
WIBU?