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To think what a weirdo?

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VeryGoodVeryNice · 31/05/2022 23:11

Last year I sold a car on eBay.

The buyer came from a long way away, on the train, and I met him at the local station with the car.

I assumed he’d bring cash, but when he got there he said he would pay by bank transfer. So he transferred the money, which took a while to show in my account. Obviously I wasn’t happy to let him take the car until I could see it had cleared in my account, so we spent 20 mins or so chatting.

He was a nice bloke, a good laugh, and in the conversation I mentioned my bf, as he lives not far from where this bloke had come from, he mentioned his wife, so it was just a friendly fellow ebayers chat rather than at all flirty. Finally the money went through and I bid him farewell.

Fast forward nearly a year, and I get a friend request on Facebook from this same guy. I wouldn’t have recognised the name but he had my old car as his profile pic and I put two and two together.

I did wonder why he’d tracked me down and added me, and it crossed my mind that he was maybe doing it in a romantically interested way, but my one and only interaction with him was some friendly jovial banter and so gave him the benefit of the doubt there.

About a month later, he sends me a messenger message saying “how are you? Xx”. I thought uh oh, maybe I was right that he was adding me with the intention of chatting me up, so I didn’t reply for a couple of days. I was also genuinely really busy and had been working flat out or asleep! So I messaged him back saying “ok thanks, working too hard, bit knackered! How’s the car going?” With NO kisses as I didn’t want to give him the wrong idea.

A few hours later he replies with one word ‘oloshi’. I thought maybe he’d sat on his phone or something as I didn’t think that was a word, but looked it up and it’s an African word for ‘stupid person’. 🤣🤣 Bit harsh, I thought, and then also realised that he’d blocked/deleted me on Facebook 🤷‍♀️

The whole thing is bizarre. The only conclusion I can come to is that I was not prompt/fawning enough in my reply and I bruised his ego. But who knows? Why on earth would anyone track down someone they had an eBay transaction a year ago with, then call them an idiot and block them? 🤣🤣

People are weird.

OP posts:
Blackmoggy · 20/07/2022 00:18

What a fruitcake! (Him not you!)

Tiani4 · 20/07/2022 00:26

He's a #niceguy

Tiani4 · 20/07/2022 00:26

That's sarcastic

Tiani4 · 20/07/2022 00:33

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nice_guy

Tiani4 · 20/07/2022 00:35

However, the term is also often used sarcastically, particularly in the context of dating,[1] to describe someone who believes himself to possess genuine "nice guy" characteristics, even though he actually does not, and who uses acts of friendship and basic social etiquettee* with the ulterior aim of progressing to a romantic or sexual relationship.[5][6] This is sometimes referred to as "Nice Guy Syndrome", which is used to describe a sense of entitlement to sexual or romantic attention from women simply for being "nice", and irrational anger when that attention is not forthcoming.

RiojaRose · 20/07/2022 00:35

Definitely a ‘nice guy’. Twat.

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