When I was a teenager my mums then boyfriend was quite vile to me. He was well educated and came from money (although had none himself after a divorce), we were ‘poor.’ He moved into our council home.
He would always try to make me look stupid or common. He would refer to me as a ‘fat girl’ (I was chubby at most) especially when my friends were round and just tried to humiliate me generally.
Example - ‘You’re the only fat girl I know NoGood.’
I would always try and bite back but it crippled my self esteem. My mum would never say anything at all. However far he went not once did she ever say ‘that’s enough now.’
I have daughters of my own now and the thought of anyone talking to them like that makes me red with rage. Just imagining it happening to them breaks my heart.
I forget about it but when I remember I feel so angry. Me & my mum are quite close now. But AIBU to think she should of stuck up for me then?