To want to cancel plans with someone with known covid even tho no rules now

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So my friend wants to meet up on Thursday I have 2 dc 5 months and 2 years.

They were with someone with confirmed covid over weekend and aren't feeling 100 percent. I said maybe take a LFT if you have one on Thursday otherwise if still poorly rearrange but all my other friends in group chat are like it's just a mild illness there's no legal requirement to cancel etc.

Now I feel embarrassed. I know there's no rules but if someone had the flu and wanted to visit my baby I'd still say no so what's the difference? AIBU?

Well if I'm ill or my family is ill with something contagious it is normal, covid or not, to keep away. Yanbu.

YANBU, why would you want to catch anything, even if it was a cold or a sickness bug you would want to avoid.

Just say no and rearrange. No need to make a fuss about it.

Doesn’t matter what’s up with them, covid, noro, this rank cough/cold thing we’ve had for 3 weeks, no one sick should be sharing their gross germs around. It’s so selfish.

Cancel, now. Don’t feel bad.

People are being a bit dickish over things like this. It is perfectly normal not to want to mix with people who have a contagious illness, no matter what it is. Colds, flu, Covid, chicken pox, monkey pox, whatever.

OP just tell them you'd rather rearrange, and decide if you really want to based on their reaction to that.

I would cancel. And I don't have a 5 month old. I definitely wouldn't expose a baby to it.

Some delightful individuals around here have decided they don't need to stay home with D&V this week. Because we don't need to isolate for covid now... but you have d&v so stay away...

Sloppy thinking on their part. The fact there's no legal requirement doesn't translate into an obligation for people to drop all common sense and expose others to needless risk. Just good manners not to be that bloody inconsiderate.

It's no different to before covid was even a thing.

"I have [flu/bad cold/some other ailment] I think and am not feeling 100%"

"Sorry to hear, I don't want to catch that so let's rain check and catch up another time"

Ignore what the other friends say

Your friends are perfectly free to mix with people who don’t care if they have covid or not.

You care. You don’t want covid. Nor would I. Cancel the plans and let them crack on with other people who feel happy to take the risk.

Personally, I think if they test positive and still go out to do non-essential socialising it is pretty stupid of them and the people they are meeting up with.

I’d cancel. Every single time.

No thanks - and it's not that mild. I wasn't particularly ill with it but fucking hell, the fatigue afterwards... I do not want that again for a while.

Exactly this. Common sense seems to have left so many people because ‘it’s not breaking the law’ 🤦🏻‍♀️

YANBU whatever they had, I would cancel.. obviously you don't want to risk catching and spreading any disease.

Your friends are dicks, you are obviously not being unreasonable.

Currently lying in bed with covid (caught for the second time). Had all the vaccines etc.

it’s awful. I feel so shit. No way could I look after a baby - I can barely make myself hot drinks. There’s a horrible wave of it going around. Definitely try to avoid it if you can.

There's no "legal" requirement to isolate with chicken pox 🤷‍♀️

But people do it because it's morally correct.

The same should go for anything that could make someone ill. In this case a cold is a risk for such a young baby.

Yanbu.

Stand your ground. You’re being reasonable.

YANBU

I caught covid in April and felt utterly crap for 3 days, but since then have had zero energy. Why would you expose anyone to that? People need to keep their bloody germs to themselves, whatever those germs are.

I think expecting people to take tests is unreasonable but yanbu for not wanting to catch an illness, especially when you have a young baby, If I have an illness of any sort I always warn people and am not at all bothered if they want to stay away from me.

I wouldn't hesitate to cancel.

it doesn't matter what it is, you don't want it!!

Is there a law against twatting yourself in the head with a brick?

YANBU it's been perfectly accepted amongst my friends that grotty germs mean no meet up. That's basic common sense and courtesy if you actually like someone!

Covid just added another grotty germ thing to our list of things to prefer avoiding rather than rewrite our socialising expectations.

A member of my family is like this.. we went out for a birthday meal on the Sunday and 1 child had been being sick, thought it was a migraine. She sat by me feeling sad she was at the meal and I rubbed her back.
Next day we all met up for a family games day. The other child and dad are both looking rough. Turns out they’ve spent all night being sick.
Parent of the children insisted they came as it was a fun day and we’d done at on that date for the last 4 years.

it took out every single person that attended the fun day. Literally 7 or is caught this horrific sickness bug.
rhe parents argument was “people get sick all the time, life can’t stop because of a sickness bug”. We all had to take time off work so we didn’t keep the cycle going. Infuriating.

Don't feel embarrassed OP. No need to make a big deal, just "I don't want the baby to catch anything if I can avoid it as it messes up her sleep, let's rearrange for another time."

The advice is to isolate for 5 days, 3 if you are a child. I tested my child last week thankfully not COVID but I still isolated him for 3 days untill he felt better. If she won't test just don't go, the problem is with her not you.