To ask what I’ve done wrong

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Best friend since school has just stopped messaging I know get a message once every 2 months I reply and then get nothing back. I’ve tried to talk tried to meet up but I get oh yes we must and then nothing. Im so hurt and confused should I ask her what’s up is she ok. I found out through instagram she’s had her hendo and is getting married in 15 days im really hurt. I know during lock down we couldn’t see each other but we did after im so confused

Sounds like you value this friendship way more than she does OP. No way would a best friend not be invited to a hen do and wedding. It sucks but sometimes friendships drift.

Didn't you recently post a similar post to this?

Either way sorry OP but sounds like she's moved on with her life. It happens with friendships - people grow as a person and put grow friends.

*out grow

Is it worth me asking what’s up or shall I leave it

Of course you should ask her, why wouldn't you if she's been your best friend since school?

If she's messaging you every 2 months, you don't sound that close to me.

I'd leave it personally. She's make it clear by not inviting you what she feels. Asking her could cause you both needless upset.

She might be your “best” friend, but you aren’t hers. I’d doubt if she considers you a friend if you didn’t get invited to the hen or the wedding.

Only if you want to hear how she feels you've drifted apart or some other story and still have no invite to the wedding at the end of it

A friend who hasn't even let you know she is getting married isn't really your friend. I imagine you would be very unlikely to get an honest answer about why she has cooled off.
Keep some dignity, accept it has run it's course and move on. I appreciate that's hard but there's no point in pursuing this one.

When did you last actually spend any time together?

Agree with this.,Sorry OP, must be hard.

Honestly I find it odd you haven't bothered asking your best friend thus far. It doesn't actually sound like you were that close even when you saw each other.

Is she your best friend or your oldest friend?

You can do what you like, but personally I would just leave it. You probably haven't done anything wrong - it's probably more a case of drifting apart. People change. Lots of school friendships don't last for ever.

She’s soft ghosted you, sorry.

A message every 2 months suggests she cooled off sometime ago. The pandemic has affected lots of relationships negatively. She has behaved very badly, in my opinion, if you were used to very regular contact from her. Forget about her and move on. I wouldn't ask what is wrong - it doesn't seem to be a personal crisis of any sort, if she's having a hen do,so no need to worry about her. Think about yourself and rid yourself of the anxiety around this. Think of it as her loss - fill your life with other things. Definately stop following her on social media. 99.9% sure you have done nothing, she's just changed and not behaving like a friend should. If you must reply to messages, make it short and not about her" Hi, all great here".

I agree with this but I'd have to ask why.

You've nothing to lose & at least will have peace of mind.