To think my small talk might need work

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I've noticed when I'm talking to people their attention tends to wane and I sometimes catch them looking in the other direction.

I'm just curious do other people ever feel like this in social situations? I could be paranoid or unconsciously doing it to others myself and be unaware... or am I probably just a really boring person?? I've just noticed it more since being in lockdown and being a new mum. It's starting to make me feel a little bit socially anxious tbh

Are you at baby groups? Because they may just be monitoring things for their child? I always was

Agree with pp if it's baby groups then other new mums are a) shattered and b) trying to keep an eye on their own DC as well as listening. Your small talk may be just fine!

If you think you are losing the other person's attention then ask them a question about themselves, that should help bring their focus back.
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I've often got an eye on my kids so its hard to have a in depth conversation unless I'm child free. Asking questions is always good

It could be that they are anxious and fine eye contact hard?

My own experience after having kids is that I over analyse everything! It's driving me mad, i say things and then stress I said the wrong thing or follow up with a text to say I didn't mean it in this way but I meant it that way etc. It's getting better but it makes me think things that aren't there.

Agree with PPs people are always watching their own kids and distracted meaning they're half listening. Try not to get in your own head too much xxx

Maybe you need to ask more questions? I find that a lot of people talk about themselves/their pet subject rather than having a proper to-and-fro conversation, so perhaps you’re doing this without realising.

If other parents with small children, they are undoubtedly shattered and/or keeping an eye on dc. Otherwise, I do sometimes notice this happening, so I either change the subject or make a polite excuse to leave!