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Own room for child going secondary?

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Tobaiass22 · 29/05/2022 14:57

Currently in 2 bed leasehold flat. Considering splitting main room into 2 for my 2 children of same gender

Kids are similar age, soon to be yr 5 and yr 7 currently share a bedroom

Is it a good idea to pay the nearly 7k cost of splitting the room especially if I may need to return the room back to its original state if we sell in order to move

No immediate plans of moving but partner has mentioned wanting to move house to a 3 bed in near future but not sure our finances etc will allow that to happen in the nearest future

Do any of your kids share a room particularly if one in secondary, or is a bunk bed, separate wardrobes etc sufficient to save costs

I assume homework will be done in kitchen and they don't currently spend so much time in their rooms, mainly in garden/ living room at the moment

So is it worth the cost, will probably need to borrow against mortgage or personal loan for this and other home improvements I wish to make.

OP posts:
snalian · 29/05/2022 17:54

Get them a standard lamp each and use room dividers.

LabiaMinoraPissusFlapus · 29/05/2022 18:03

Leasehold 'ownership' is different from freehold ownership, so please check your lease terms first as it could be an expensive mistake. I learnt this the hard way when 'owning' a leasehold flat. All you own is the right to live there for however many years are on the lease. As for sharing, that is normal all over the world, although I realise some personalities don't allow for it!

23Elfie · 29/05/2022 18:19

I shared a bedroom with my sister until I was 25 and moved out! It's totally fine, I don't know why so many people think it's a necessity that children have their own rooms and put themselves under huge financial pressure to do so. There's only 2 years between them then they'll both be doing homework each night anyway. If older one needs to be left alone then younger child will need to be told not to go in the bedroom until after dinner or something 🤷‍♀️

Ponderingwindow · 29/05/2022 18:20

You don’t have to divide the room, but I would be looking for a quiet dedicated study space for a secondary student somewhere in the flat.
The kitchen table is far from ideal.
A proper desk and silence are really valuable.

TheCanyon · 29/05/2022 18:20

We split our biggest room, cost us £700 included knocking out a cupboard for the second door and putting two new lights in.

Ohhelpicantthinkofaname · 29/05/2022 18:21

Porcupineintherough · 29/05/2022 15:41

I totally would, mine were totally ready for their own room by Y7 but I'd try to spend less than 7k on doing it.

It's really important that secondary school kids have a quiet place to do homework and study at home. Even if its just a desk and instructions for younger siblings to keep out of the shared bedroom bw 5pm and 7pm (or a desk in your bedroom).

And as for the "just buy a lamp" twit, seriously? So one sibling gets a room with a window and overhead light they control with a switch and the other gets - a lamp?

Some people have no imagination. You’ve clearly never seen anyone spilt a room on a budget. Lots of places have double aspect windows and if they don’t then people tend to just divide the window in two.

the OP said she would take it down if she was to sell so would purely be for her kids benefit.

CatsArePeople · 29/05/2022 18:46

Split the room with furniture or screens?

2MinuteRice · 29/05/2022 20:14

Do you have a kitchen table?
We have 4 children and 2 have to share.
One is an adult so no homework.

The next child does their homework in the conservatory Y9 and doesn't really need help.

The younger two at primary don't have much so do it at the kitchen table.

In your situation I would prioritise the Y7's home work in the kitchen and then the younger child can do theirs with you later.

Another option is that you put a desk in their room so one can work in the bedroom and one downstairs.

To be honest before we had more space the youngest used a hard kitchen chair to work on while sitting on the sofa. Not ideal but need must.

I would t spend £7k though, you could do so much more with it.

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