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to want to throw DH out with the bloody carrott peelings....

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TheMadHouse · 13/01/2008 10:51

I am so urgggggggggggggggggg this morning with DH.

we have an agreement that one of the weekend morning is a lie in for each of us.

He had his yesterday till 9am with a cup of tea brought up for him. Boys were dressed, fed and all was ready for the day.

Last night I asked him if he was getting up and his response was "we'll see" - so I went to sleep in a strop. I was woke this am by Ds1 screaming and banging on the door. I thought there was an emergency, oh no DH had got up, but was just lounging, so DS1 woke me for breakfast.

He hadnt put the chicken on, so dinner will be late, no veg prepped, DS2 in a dirty nappy and no breakfast or no cup of tea.

Well I have done everything, as usual, even cleaned up cat sick he had walked past. I just want to bin him.

I am so tired Ds1 was up 6 times in the night as he is full of cold, I had the coil fitted before christmas adn am still bleeding, but as January is his busiest month at work no chance of him coming in early so I can go to the doctors and discuss this without the children.

I am not a matyr, just a tired, unappreicated SAHM, who is wants some help now and then. Family are usless, we have not been out together in over a year, but live near them. They will not babysit, as are too busy looking after other grandaughter or in my mums case too bloody selfish.

I am waiting my results og my genetic test for cancer, so I am nervous and more than a little anxious, but I am sick of being the only onbe to pull my weight.

So sorry long rant, but I do feel better now it is in writing

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cherryredretrochick · 13/01/2008 10:53

(((((big hug and virtual cup of tea))))))

TheMadHouse · 13/01/2008 11:10

Oh Yes - sorry we do not bin the peelings - we compost them

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RubyRioja · 13/01/2008 11:22

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Grouchyoscar · 13/01/2008 11:30

TMH Hello

What is it with blokes? I had to tear an implied strip off DH yesterday morning as I had to get up with DS, shower him then do the worst of the morning jobs (again) when HE agreed to get up with him Last week he didn't get up before me either .

Then MIL told me it was 'my job' to do all the muck and bullets work in the house WTF! He doesn't pay me a brass fathing and he couldn't afford me even if I only charged minimum wage. I couldn't go off on one with her as she was babysitting DS so we could go out and celebrate our wedding anniversary. She rarely has any childcare to do for DS as she seems to be raising our neice or will kick us into touch to babysit the kids of a family friend. I have very little to do with my family so.......Arggggh, families

Catch up with you later

colditz · 13/01/2008 11:33

Cry. big wet sobs. Tell him why you are crying and what he needs to do to make you stop. Tell him that a repeat performance will upset you so much you might be even more distressed.

ludaloo · 13/01/2008 11:59

You poor thing Madhouse but you really are not alone...I never get a lie in...never get help with kids/house either...its damned annoying isn't it

I hope you can relax a bit today and find some time from somewhere to do something just for you.

onlyjoking9329 · 13/01/2008 12:02

keep the carrot peelings for they are at least usefuluseful

milou2 · 13/01/2008 12:15

Some form of consequence could help, eg he doesn't get up til one hour later than agreed, therefore you go out for 3 hours a little later that day. All's fair in love and war, this is your price for being let down.

Ask him what he does to employees who turn up one hour late, or an electrician who fixes the wrong light. A house isn't some sort of relaxation station it's a working hospital and school which runs 24/7/365 in case he hadn't noticed......

Is he your teenager on a very bad day or is he a 35 year old professional who expects decent behaviour from every other adult in his life and is repscted by the people he deals with all day long. I'm sure its the last so he needs to be professional at home too.

You see my attitude. Try to say it with a smile!

TheMadHouse · 13/01/2008 13:09

Thanks ladies

I feel a lot better now. Part of the issue is me I am uptight and stressed a the moment. I also can be a bit of a control freak which doesnt help.

Alas DS2 is in the 18 month attatched to mumy stage - I forgot about this bit. He is currently oin bed. Lunch was lovley and DS1 had 4 yorkshire pudds.

we are planning on a walk by the sea once DS2 wakes up.

He is a good DH most of the time. It is just a man thing - they are wired this way.

At least mine does some domestic chores on a daily basis

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Emprexia · 13/01/2008 13:10

It seems to be the trend this morning Madhouse.. i'm moaning about the same thing on my thread.

I suggest handing DS to DH, putting some ear plugs in and going back to bed for an hour.

I think xmas must have worn our poor dear husbands out.

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