To feel reluctant to forgive my DH right away at the sound of "I'm sorry"

[RoRoMommy]

This morning DH told me off when I brought DS to him (as we do each weekend morning because I take all of the nights) at 7am. This included a "fuck off" and "fuck you" in front of our DS. He was shouting at me at one point. I just told him it was unacceptable to treat me that way and went to bed.

Then, at about 10am when my mum got up, he came into the bed and said, quite sincerely, "I'm sorry" and gave me a cuddle. A few minutes later I reiterated that he cannot treat me that way, particularly in front of our son, and he can't say those things to me anymore. He said, with a bit of annoyance, that this was why he was apologizing.

So, AIBU for not feeling like forgiving him right off the bat? I am still angry and I don't feel like he should get off of the hook for just saying sorry, especially since this happens about half of the time I bring him DS on the weekend morning even though that's been the plan for ages.

Thanks.

he tells you to fuck off/fuck you in front of your son on a regular basis

if his apologies were sincere wouldn't he try to change/modify his behaviour?

you are not being unreasonable IMO

YANBU.

YANBU, agree with Ruby. I should say that to him, if I were you.

YANBU, but maybe if he is so arsy with the arrangment he is not as happy with it as he thought he would be. You could try to come up with another arrangement where you both feel happy. My dh is not a morning person so I leave him in bed and he takes the kids out later so I can have a bath or a sleep.
If you do make a new arrangement it needs to be understood that it is on the condition that he never treats you like this again, totally unacceptable.

defo not BU

sorry had to rush wanted to say, you know you are NOT being unreasonable don't let doubt creep in. It is NOT you.

RORO, you are not being unreasonable, but dont let this spoil what is left of the weekend. Tell him you were really pissed off with him and that he should feel totally ashamed for behaving that way, especially in front of his son. What a man! Then tell him he will have to perform a penance - whether that is a massage or the purchase of chocolates/flowers or running you a hot bath etc. It gets your point across that you will not accept this and you still get to be the bigger person. And then, he feels even shitter than he (hopefully) already does!