to be annoyed that i missed out on my lie-in because of DH's new PC Game?

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We always take it in turns to have a lie-in weekends.. i get up with DS (16mo) on Saturday so he can re-coup the sleep he's missed from being on Night Shift all week, then i get to sleep in sunday morning.

Only, DH didn't come to bed untl 6.45am this morning because he was sat up playing a game he bought yesterday.

I can't have one tomorrow because he's back at work tomorrow night and refuses to get up before 3pm on a monday.

I'm so annoyed, i dont ask for much, with him working Nights it means that other than a nap saturday afternoon, i have DS 24/7 at the moment because DH is working overtime and won't do breakfast to give me an extra hours sleep of a morning before he comes to bed.

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YANBU at all. Make him get out of bed early on Monday!

And he was up all night playing a f'ing computer game? How old is he, 15?

Don't get cross, just smile, thank him for your lie-in and tell him that you are now going to bed - send him downstairs. This young man (!) needs to learn the consequences of his actions!

grrrrrrrr - i was about to start a similar thread this morning, so i will just have my moan on here F*CKING MEN!!

My gripe is why is it when (a very rare occasion) i am offered a lie in, i usually lay there for half an hour, come round and get up. DP layed in his pit for two HOURS this morning. Another thing that pisses me off, is when i have a lie in, he does nothing apart from sit with DD. I get breakfast do the kitchen, washing etc.

Apart from that, he is perfect

Make loads of noise so he cant sleep, when he gets up hand him your dc say wake me up when lunch is ready, and go back to bed, you deserve it!

He refuses to do beakfasts? I think a discussion is needed....

i think a discussion about priorities is needed

Dropdeadfred.. normally when he's just doing the usual 9-7 shift, he will stay up til about 10.30 to give DS breakfast and let me get an extra hour or so sleep and get dressed and ready for the day.

When he does overtime, he's working 13hr shifts and when he gets home, is exhausted and goes to bed for 8.30am.. i don't mind.. as long as i get my sunday morning!

He just got up, so will wait the 1.5 hours it takes for him to shower and cook breakast (his job, hehe) then i'm going to put DS down for his nap, give DH the monitor and go sleep myself.

I know I'll get my head chewed off for this, but YABU and so was he.

He's working overtime for the family. He does a lot more for you than a lot of H/P's do.

PC game marathon was unacceptable, period.

It could be worse, you could be a single parent, your child could not be sleeping at all and I assume he still has a nap during the day.

Stop whinging!!!

(dons a hardhat and takes cover!)

Manxmum.
Course i'm being unreasonable when i get an average 5hrs sleep a night all week because DS doesn't sleep through.. while i make sure DH gets at least 7 or 8 uninterrupted hours sleep in the week, and don't complain if he doesn't get up until 3pm on a saturday, ususally getting 12hrs sleep in...

Even when i get the lie-in we agreed on, i only get 7hrs max.

YANBU - you have an arrangement so he should discuss with you if he wants to change, not just stay up til that time playing games!

And I don't agree with ManxMum - I'm getting fed up with reading all these 'think yourself lucky, you could.....' posts of late, there are always people worse or better off than others, doesn't mean we can't have a moan about things does it! I could go on and on about what I have to do compared to dh etc. but that's MY life and this is HERS and her dh WAS out of order, full stop!

Im a single mum, but, i dont compare my life to others and say well count yourself lucky because im a single mum. I think your being a bit harsh ManxMum. Kaishay, you deserve a lie in as much as your dh does, YANBU at all!

I'm a single mum, and just because other people have it worse doesn't mean that nobody has a problem ever. I can't say to someone "Stop moaning about only getting 5 hours sleep, I only get 4.5"

Because the reason I only get X amount of sleep is that I am the only adult in my house. the reason Kaishay only get Y amount of sleep is that her husband sat on a computer game all night, which was putting his desire to play on the computer above her physical need for sleep, which was very very selfish.

YANBU, on the rare occation my dh and I agree to let me have a lie in, I look forward to it more than anything. I tell my dh, he looks forward to sex and I get the occational 7 hour sleep. I know games can be addictive but tell him he needs to suck it up and do what he's agreed, if he had to work he wouldn't have stayed up that late.

YANBU.

for years i havent had a lie in. since dh was transplanted and home, i get a lie in on sunday as he has to take a pill early on sunday, so he gets up with the kids and makes them breakfast and i get a lie in. its actually really nice and i look forward to it all week.

"He's working overtime for the family. He does a lot more for you than a lot of H/P's do."

Eeh......no he doesn't, as far as I can see.

I hate this assumption that we are supposed to treat men as these fragile, incapable things that need special treatment and extra priveleges for just doing their fair share.

That's why I'm happy being single....

It does sound you are both exhausted Kaishay. Do you have anyone who could take your DS for a couple of hours at least so you can both get some rest? or if not, is childcare an option?

Oh yeah, what Colditz said as well.

YANBU

Mp DP plays a pc game and considers that he has looked after DD when she had been having her naps in the same room as him when he is playing his game. As soon as she wakes up its my turn to look after her! Men seem to lose all common sense and forethought when games are involved.