I don't have a good relationship with my DM, she has been quite frankly awful to me over the years dispite me trying so hard to have a meaningfu relationship with her, however I did feel that she cared about my DC until recently.
It was my DD's birthday in April and dispite living 20 minutes up the road she didn't bother to drop a card in or even call to wish her a HPB.
She then blanked us for weeks and wouldn't take my calls. When I finally got her on the phone she acted as though it never happened. I picked her up on her lack of acknowledging DD's birthday and said i was disappointed about it, she said she hadn't forgot and she's going to give her a gift voucher that she has for a particular shop. It was never about a present btw but the principle.
Back to blanking us again.
By this point I had reached acceptance that she's never going to be the mother/grandparent I'd hoped she would and decided to cut my losses and stop reaching out to her.
Fast forward to this afternoon I get a call from my aunt who was with my DM she says:
"Hello! How are you? Hope the kids are well. Your mum is fine. Do you know if there's a (shop she has the voucher for) in town as she wants to go and spend a voucher she's got on some new clothes for herself"
I said yes there was but I don't understand why you're telling me because that voucher was supposed to be for DD..
Aunt says "oh, yes, well she's moved on from that now.."
I just put the phone down.
I'm so angry.
What the fuck was the point in that? Was she just trying to upset me?