Anger Management techniques

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Posting again as i cant believe no one has anything to reply

Posting here for traffic so apologies for that…

do you have any books, audiobooks or techniques to manage your anger?

i am constantly angry, for such a long time, everything and everyone aggravates me, smallest thing can trigger me to snap and be rude to DH, DP and others. It’s tiring. I dont know the reason. Usually i know there is no reason for my reactions and my anger but i cant control it no matter how bad i try. I have a 1.5 yrs old toddler and its the last call to change it because i never want him to suffer like that and be angry when he is older and i feel i cant teach him proper reactions and how to deal with any sort of things when everything just makes me angry.

i was in touch with gp some time ago and they referred me to get a therapy, but therapist decided its an anxiety etc and i had an online “self” therapy using their programme and a catch up call every two weeks but i didnt feel like its for me (i did stick to it to the last session but no changes). I could go to a group therapy or one to one face to face as was on maternity, with no help (husband works 12 hrs shift and is practically never home and the sessions were at set time and date). Its still the case and i wont be able to attend any sessions besides the online ones and also cannot afford any private therapy.

Did the gp explore medication or consider depression at all?

No they didnt.

When I had depression I was angry at everything and found the smallest thing would set me off
then I’d be upset for getting angry and was just going round in this cycle it was awful

i would go back to your gp and explain how you are feeling, for me medication was the only thing that helped but I appreciate it’s not for everyone

Hi OP

Have you read any books around the subject? Can you give a bit more information?

Has it always been like this or is it a new thing?
If it's a new thing, how old are you? Has anything changed in your life recently? When did it start eg after having babies?
Is it triggered by anything in particular eg work, family etc.
Are you getting enough sleep
Did you grow up in a house where there was an angry parent?

You probably need to do some work on the reason before finding strategies to help. I know I am more quick to anger when I'm tired and stressed for example

thank you both.
@supersizeforaquid depression didnt cross my mind as I thought depressed people struggle with day to day life etc which is not my case but i will have a deeper look into this.

@DrinkFeckArseBrick i was hoping to get some advices in regards which books are worth to get etc.
my childhood was very normal and parents are great.
i am not getting enough sleep as my toddler is horrible sleeper and yes it triggers me more and i take it out on everyone but it started many years ago so this cant be a reason. I am not sure if it started before one of my relationship which was just worse time of my life or before. I am on whole another level in my life now and just should be happy and content.. not always angry, rude and bitchy.
it took me so much to call gp and admit i have a problem and it all failed, i dont know if i can/want do it again.

@supersizeforaquid thank you.
barely had any replies to my post but sometimes one good answer is more than enough.
it turned out to be a depression. Thank you for bringing it to my attention

Hope you feel better soon OP When I'm down it always manifests as tiredness, irritability and inability to make decisions. I can feel these and weirdly still feel I am happy - but I'm not really.