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[staceyflack]

Aibu to feel 'down' after wonderful wedding a month ago, to a wonderful man.. (second time for us both, both got older kids), and have a sense of 'what now?' I think its probably common right, after all the build up? 😕

Very common but you need to get over it. It’s the same feeling as after a lovely holiday. Get a hobby or project to focus on.

Yes very common. Everything feels so flat after all that excitement and preparation. My mum always says the 1st year of marriage is the hardest. In my case the next 20 weren't too great either, but I'm sure you'll be different 😉

The bigger the wedding the bigger the comedown.

Not unusual given society’s obsession with the “perfect” wedding being the be all and end all.

No I never felt that at all. I'd be a bit worried if I felt like that after the wedding. Do you maybe need something to focus on like a new project. Decorate some of ur house, plan a big trip abroad or find a new hobby.

It was a very simple affair @orwellwasright ... i think is the anticipation.. being over. I'm not worried about the relationship @TheTeddyBears . We've just had our 7th year anniversary and are very happy together.

Ah, you’ve had the literal honeymoon period. It’ll be fine.

I'm 3 weeks past mine, today. It was very simple. We are in late 50s early 60s and 2nd time around. It is a bit flat now but people are still raving about the day so that keeps us going.

It can be a bit anticlimactic. Try and plan something so you have something to look forward to.

Same @Musicaltheatremum . Congratulations!

We both felt a bit flat after the wedding and honeymoon because we'd been so busy making decorations or preparing or just anticipating and our wedding was actually pretty small just we were excited about it. It did pass though, we just moved on to filling our time with other things. I'd say it's totally normal and not to worry about it. It's a big event in yor life no matter the actual size of the wedding and it's an odd feeling when it's 'all over' as it were. Be kind to yourself and maybe look for something else exciting to do together and fill your time?