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Choosing between heating and eating

145 replies

Hunger1987 · 27/05/2022 21:23

What a terrible government induced state we find ourselves in.

we have turned our heat off and hoping that until September we won’t need to turn it on again.

are you choosing right now between heating or eating? It’s a bloody disgrace

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Onthedowns · 28/05/2022 07:41

worriedatthistime · 28/05/2022 07:11

@SD1978 don't tell them that as its only happening in this country according ti mumsnet, its not global and no war affecting prices
After all someone went to spain for a week and wasn't as deer ( yet they have no idea of min wage/ welfare in spain)
Its shit but we are all going through it, i have stopped using my tumble dryer so much and we always have heating off at this time of year just use a lightweight blanket in evenings if chilly as it nots freezing
Shopping being more conscious of what we buy and using all of it, was guilty of throwing too much away
But whoever was in government couldn't do much about prices etc and they have just announced a large amount of help , yet that still isn't good enough
25 years ago my dad always rationed the heating and hot water and that was very much a norm,

Actually i am very aware of the wages and welfare in Spain having Spanish family. So have been in Spain over different crisis. Everything is relative so their standard of living might Lower but so is food. There were no shortages in the town i was in.

The point was that prices have not rocketed like they have here. As explained petrol is extortionate but the government are issuing vouchers when people pay for their fuel.

Electricity is expensive they don't use a lot of gas in majority of houses, no central heating gas hobs. However it was affecting people who are running air conditioning - considered a luxury.

Costs are affecting me but my flights are rebooked from 3 cancellations so only spending money - which was cheaper than living here for a week.

I think there is more to it than just blaming a world food crisis. Brexit is having a huge impact. We all want to import cheap food as we can't produce it here. I mean chicken from Thailand!!! Our consumption simply cannot keep up with demand. These are issues driving up prices too

Onthedowns · 28/05/2022 07:43

Their inflation is just under half of ours currently that helps

Sniffypete · 28/05/2022 07:46

But how is it the tories fault for a global rise? How is Boris to blame for Austria and Germany considering rationing gas or America going into its fuel reserves?

It's a global issue. And one that has been helped along by Russia. You want someone to blame. Blame Putin.

Have a read of this - www.wired.co.uk/article/global-energy-crisis-price-rise-solution
Suggests that the energy price cap shouldn't be in place, as that's keeping prices high.

dottiedodah · 28/05/2022 07:58

Some threads are saying we don't need to use heating so much .we don't have ours on atm.however some people old or poorly or just chilly mortals may need theirs to be on .it's hard with only 2 days to use an oven .I grew up before ch was a thing .when the boiler broke we had no heating for 3 weeks! Don't want that again.we seem to be going backwards atm in a way .the government has listened and the 400 pounds will help .they do need to do more though

NotMushroomInEre · 28/05/2022 09:18

I pay for my gas and electricity by direct debit, however, I only pay for what I've used. There was no way I was agreeing to my dd rising from £100 a month to £180 a month, especially when I was in credit. My bill was about £65 this month, so I've stuck some of the difference between that and their request for £180 into my savings account. I'd prefer it to be in my bank account rather than theirs. With the money I'm saving, it'll take some of the strain off over winter. This works for me, but I know it wouldn't work for everyone, and I'm aware that I'm in a fortunate position to be able to save some of that difference. I suppose I'm just posting in case there is someone who is paying a ridiculous amount in dds and hasn't thought about doing it this way.

Ginajo · 28/05/2022 09:27

In May it isn't a choice between the two. No-one is going to freeze to death, but you have to eat.

I'm not well off, but I'm not struggling either, so I know I'm fortunate. But my heating is off now, and will be off until the autumn. Yes it can get chilly, but it's perfectly possible to put more clothes on.

In Mumsnet world there are people who think showering twice a day is normal and it's minging if you don't wash your towels every time you use them. I didn't grow up in a world like that. We couldn't afford to have baths every day (and it wasn't the norm anyway) and central heating was a luxury. Im not saying we should go back to that world, but there's a balance somewhere in the middle.

Antarcticant · 28/05/2022 09:29

Thanks for the recommendation @Normando91 - I will check it out.

ConsuelaHammock · 28/05/2022 11:20

No, because it’s May!?

QuestionableMouse · 28/05/2022 11:26

AnuSTart · 27/05/2022 21:35

This!

Why the f are you needing your heating on?? Even the Scottish highlands are reasonable right now.

It's 12°c where I am right now in the North East. Don't have the heating on but the house is chilly! My mum has hers on for a bit this morning because she's disabled and really feels the cold (and no, adding more layers doesn't help her!)

Choosing between heating and eating
ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 28/05/2022 11:32

Kind of not the point but I don’t get why your heating is on in late May. We don’t have our heating on April-October

Bully for you. Depends on where you live. It’s been freezing here.

QuestionableMouse · 28/05/2022 11:38

We had snow in April this year! It's been very chilly.

coffeecupsandfairylights · 28/05/2022 11:43

If you're genuinely in a position of having to decide between heating and eating, having the heating on in late May wouldn't even be a consideration, surely? You'd use blankets/layers and feed yourself and your family?

We don't struggle financially but we haven't had the heating on since the end of March as it's just too expensive to justify - I don't say that to be competitively cold or frugal, though I'm sure I'll be jumped on for it anyway 😉

Obviously the current prices are ridiculous but even when they were much more affordable, I've honestly never lived in a house where the heating has been on past March/April time. Growing up I was just told to put on a jumper or use a hot water bottle if I was cold and the heating wasn't on! Isn't that normal? lol.

coffeecupsandfairylights · 28/05/2022 11:45

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 28/05/2022 11:32

Kind of not the point but I don’t get why your heating is on in late May. We don’t have our heating on April-October

Bully for you. Depends on where you live. It’s been freezing here.

I mean, it feel cold but you're not going to freeze to death in the UK in May because you can't afford the heating. Surely it's common sense to prioritise having the heating on in winter?

MarshaBradyo · 28/05/2022 11:49

we have turned our heat off and hoping that until September we won’t need to turn it on again.

We haven’t had the heating on for ages

gotthis · 28/05/2022 11:50

I think our government have failed to invest in renewables, and got rid of our gas storage, which was shortsighted. They have failed to address stagnant wages.Austerity was a mistake, and labours manifesto of investment and green new deal would have put us in a much better place.

InvincibleInvisibility · 28/05/2022 11:55

food prices are definitely rising in Paris. Dunno about comparative speed compared to the UK but our food was always a lot more expensive. I can't get over how cheap food is when I come back to the UK.

Ive noticed rising prices for: bread, milk, butter, flour, yogurt, cereals, pasta

gotthis · 28/05/2022 12:08

InvincibleInvisibility · 28/05/2022 11:55

food prices are definitely rising in Paris. Dunno about comparative speed compared to the UK but our food was always a lot more expensive. I can't get over how cheap food is when I come back to the UK.

Ive noticed rising prices for: bread, milk, butter, flour, yogurt, cereals, pasta

Yes, I noticed cost of food when I lived there. It was really offset by much lower property taxes, fuel and car insurance for us, though.

Calmdown14 · 28/05/2022 12:10

I cannot fathom heating on in almost June. There's really no need.

And before I get jumped on, I am in North Scotland with a house fronting the north sea so pretty high up the cold stakes. We have our windows open too

luckylavender · 28/05/2022 12:14

Alltheprettyseahorses · 27/05/2022 21:28

I don't understand. There is a global fuel and food crisis so, awful as the Tories are, this isn't their fault. It's warm so no heating is needed at the moment anyway, it's an environmentally damaging waste of energy. And speaking as someone in poverty it's never a choice between heating and eating but a compromise between the two.

There is a lot the Tories could & should do. What they have done this week is just to stop us talking about their criminality.

myuterusistryingtokillme · 28/05/2022 12:18

Bakedpotatoesfortea · 27/05/2022 21:54

I think there's a whole generation of grown ups right now (myself included) who have just fully realised that having the heating on luxury. Having hot water for a bath or shower 1-2x a day, is a luxury. Running the tumble dryer regularly is a luxury. It has become our societal norm to heat our homes hotter than it is outside 10+ months a year, always have hot water on tap and live to a certain level of 'hygiene' that is unsustainable without incurring an unaffordable energy bill as a result. Societal norms will shift, maybe not back to a weekly bath for the whole family to share and ice on the inside of the windows, but it will change.

I think this is very true. You see threads on here about people washing (and no doubt tumble drying) towels after one single use, or showering multiple times a day which is entirely unnecessary and horrific for the environment. It will also become exceptionally expensive, so people will need to reset their expectations about what is 'reasonable'

Pollydonia · 28/05/2022 12:31

gotthis · 27/05/2022 22:28

That's interesting @Onthedowns . I wonder why we are so hit by price rises here and they are less affected in Spain. Food prices, fuel, energy, council tax all going up hugely here.

I live in Spain. The food price raises are steep BUT the government has stepped in on gas, electricity and fuel with realistic cap to help the population. That's the difference.

Eeksteek · 28/05/2022 12:32

I’m always astounded by people who turn their heating off by date. My heating is on a thermostat. I set it to around 18/20 and it comes on automatically if it needs to maintain that temperature, whether it’s June or January. This is the UK, we have absurdly erratic weather and everyone knows it!

But y’all use a calendar? That’s….illogical!

Yes, I have reduced my heating so we can still eat. I have also reduced my food intake in both quality and quantity so we can still have some heat. It sucks. And while it is a global problem, the Tory government are managing fairly poorly, because they care about money more than people.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 28/05/2022 12:35

I cannot fathom heating on in almost June. There's really no need

Again it depends on where you live. I’ve worn gloves in July and known it snow in June. 1976 l think.

gotthis · 28/05/2022 12:35

@Pollydonia thank you, I can see how easing costs elsewhere helps with food prices.

DrManhattan · 28/05/2022 12:37

@luckylavender
Agree 100%

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