Not sure what to do- probably posting here more for traffic.
My DP and DM don't get on at all! We have a 3 month old and the stress around it all is just getting worse.
Myself, DD & DP have just been away for a week. Came home today and normally always go to my DP's parents on a Friday night- it's basically the only time we get to see all the kids on his side of the family.
A few months back my DP and DM had a falling out and it was decided our DD would no longer stay overnight with my DM. In all honesty I agree with this, she's just starting to get into a routine but even while away has been so unsettled and gone from being up once in the night to 4/5 times so I know she'd more than likely be like this at DM's and really we're both off work so there isn't really any major need for her to stay out while so young (probably my fault for allowing this when she was around 3 weeks old for around a month one night a week so I'll take full responsibility for that).
So while on the phone to DM this week while away she asked if DD wanted to stay over one night next week- I explained for what feels like the 100th time that we don't want her staying out at the moment but she could have her for the day- happy to drop her off first thing and pick her up tea time. DM not happy with this and said I'm clearly being controlled, obviously not my decision and she wanted nothing to do with me and DD to 'stop arguments'. I explained it didn't cause any arguments and that's it's my decision as much as DP's that we don't want her staying out.
Coming home today and DM had said as she has a week off she was getting a life home to my grandparents so she didn't have her company car all week- I offered to pick her up from work with DD and go with her to grandparents to see them as well and then drop her home- she said no it didn't matter.
When calling her tonight she was off from the start and then said 'take it you've been to his mothers tonight?' I said yes we go every week why- she said 'okay whatever I'll speak to you whenever' and put the phone down on me!
I'm fuming, AIBU to be fuming?? I understand they don't like each other but it's not like I dropped her to go and see DP's parents, if I'd of gone to her like I offered we probably wouldn't have gone to MIL's as it would have been too late.
I feel like I'm in the wrong no matter what I do. Don't even know if I'm looking for advice or just a hand hold it's just so bloody stressful and as daft as it sounds sometimes I wish I could just take my DD and run away for a few weeks 🤦🏼♀️😂