Toddler screaming at bed time

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Is it OK to let a 2 and a half year old cry it out ? Every time I go back in, it makes it much worse and continues for hours.

What happens if you stay with them until they fall asleep?

Sometimes it works. Other times it drags bed time out for hours, as toddler wants to chat etc

DS1 is/was a chatter...I stay with him but after a story and one or two questions I just repeat "no more talking now, it's bed time" or variations thereof in a boring voice.

How long do you stay ?

I used to go to bed with my ds and stay in his bed until he was asleep.

When you go in do you pick them up and engage- if so don’t. Just walk in lie them down, ssh and walk out

Sounds long and painful if you have more than 1 child, a job or want an evening!

I loved it, I used to get in bed with him and snuggle him until he fell asleep. Was the perfect down time

Sounds not tired enough at bedtime if happy to chat for hours. Still napping? What time are you trying to do bedtime?

And I was a lone parent, more than one child and a job.

maybe 10/15mins till he gets to sleep? He has a late bedtime though, I tried to do an standard bedtime of 7pm when he was younger but he just rolled about for 2 hours instead.

(DS1 is 6, my 2 year old is the complete opposite and loves sleep, he just lies down, gets his blanket and sleeps 😮)

We still do this with DD! I love it. We have story time and then we snuggle in bed together and she falls asleep. But it doesn't take her long till she's asleep after story, maybe 10 mins or so.

This. I stay with mine until he falls asleep, and sing him a few nursery rhymes quietly (twinkle twinkle, hush little baby) and if he attempts to talk I say "no more talking, sleepy time now". It used to take him a long time to fall asleep, but after we dropped the nap he dozes off within 10mins usually.

Yeah no nap today and been in the room for two hours... still hearing, mummy mummy...

When there's a nap, we have a later bed time. When There's no nap, earlier bed time. Doesn't change the outcome.

How long have you actually been sleep training for?
what’s his sleep schedule like?

What were all your other children doing while you were snuggled up with your son!?

My other child used to read, do homework or draw whilst I cuddled the other to sleep. It was 30 mins max.

Wow you sound like such a good mum, with such well behaved children. And you did it all on you own. Wow. We all need to take a leaf out of your book.

I personally don't think there is anything wrong with cry it out at that age. The child knows what they are supposed to be doing. Sleep is important and they need to know this isn't a time for singing, chatting, quality time with mum etc. It's sleep time.

I tried ferber method with my 16 month old. And DS got hysterical every time I went in the room. So ferber quickly turned into cry it out, and DS is totally fine. Puts himself to sleep. Took one night of crying, and that's it.