To think it's likely that my anxiety will be lessened in the 2nd and 3rd trimester compared to the the 1st?

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Surely?!
1st trimester is early days when there is the most risk.
Bloody 7 years and 900 rounds of IVF, all I wanted was to be pregnant. Little did I know how much I'd worry.
12 week scan in a couple of days. Not long.

Did you feel a bit less anxious once the 1st trimester was done with?

I'm sorry to hear about your anxiety. I totally get it.
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
I too had years of fertility treatment (IUI & IVF), and 3 losses.

With this pregnancy, my anxiety didn't start to ease until I was around 25 weeks and even then it still pops up every now and then. I'm 33 weeks now.
I've had around 10 scans during this pregnancy.

It can be such a worrying time when it's something you want so much and have wanted for so long.
Good luck and I hope you start to feel more at ease soon. 🌸

Once I got to about 24 weeks and could feel movements DS was also an ivf pregnancy. I get it. I hope all goes well at scan

No, I worried all the way through, and then when they're here. I am guessing it eases off when they're adults? Or when I die?

I’m 18 weeks and much more relaxed than in my first trimester. I had a bleed last week but baby was fine, wriggling around on the screen. Must say though I’m a little anxious about the 20 week scan as it’s so in-depth. I also may have Covid which is a bit of a concern but generally I’m pretty relaxed.

To be completely honest, I hated the first trimester and was v happy to see the back of it. IVF baby here too 👋🏼

no mine got worse the longer it went on, sorry

Have you spoken to your midwife about prenatal depression/anxiety? Much more common than post natal depression/anxiety but far less spoken about.

I don’t say this to frighten you, but with my second who I had after an ectopic I looked for blood everytime I weed until I gave birth to him!

Mine was terrible the whole way. It's different for everyone. I thought I'd feel better at 12 weeks. Then 20. Then 24. Then 28. In reality I get better when she was born. I cried silent tears of relief as she was born because it felt easier to keep her safe on the outside than on the inside. I have PCOS, had two miscarriages and had just been accepted for IVF when a last ditched seventh attempt a clomid worked.

Can’t say I found this unfortunately! If anything it got worse as I got more and more attached and the baby was already such a part of my life.
I wouldn’t even say I have anxiety but I was worried all the way through. An auntie told me you worry about everything when you are pregnant, feeling sick, not feeling sick, bleeding, fast movement, slow movement and then you have the baby and you basically just worry about them for the rest of your life! So far she isn’t wrong.

I was definitely more anxious in the first, eased off gradually over the second and felt very calm and happy mentally in the third (although was in a lot of pain with SPD). I didn't struggle to conceive and it was completely irrational, but I became obsessed with miscarriage statistics and how much the likelihood dropped on a daily basis. I think by the time I was about 18 weeks I started to enjoy the pregnancy. I hope you feel better soon OP.

Totally my thread. I have my anomaly scan next week and it's all still fearful. I look up anything that can go wrong and was obsessed with miscarriage calculators from beginning.

Poster who commented about checking for blood every time they went to the toilet I identify with this. Additionally fearfully of a missed miscarriage so you really can't win.

It gets better. I'm 27 weeks now and since 20 weeks I've been much less anxious.

Yes, first trimester was always the most worrying for me. Once I could feel baby move I was a lot calmer.

I have anxiety issues but do worry less in the second trimester. Just crossed into second with second baby. You see the baby on the scan, you have more appointments, the risks statistically go down, and I feel less physically dreadful which helps too. I don't take anything for granted but it all felt even more tenuous in first trimester. Both times I've had trouble believing there really was a baby in there even though I knew there was.

I had a mmc in my first pregnancy and that really impacted my anxiety in my next.

I was terrified during the first trimester (to the point where I had panic attacks at my scans through fear of being told the heartbeat had stopped) and then in the second it was just a constant hope that all was fine until I felt movements. Then it's whether you think baby is moving as they should be.

Generally speaking, I found the first trimester the most daunting but nothing prepares you for actually having that baby and worrying when they're poorly and spiking a 40 degree fever and you know you're not getting a wink of sleep that night with worry! Pregnancy is just preparation for lifelong parental worry.

I'm now pregnant again (9+3) and I still have anxiety but less so than last time.

Mine didn't until she was born and in my arms. After that my levels of anxiety have been lower than ever before!

Two straightforward pregnancies here, I think it depends on the person to be honest. I hate to say it but once you get movements you’ll spend at least half the time worrying whether they’re regular.

With my first I’d say once she’s here and I can see she’s breathing I’ll be fine… still on tenterhooks for the longest time.

Try not to panic and enjoy it, way easier said than done 😣

Absolutely, I felt so much better after my 12 week scan and I had no additional stressors (conceived easily). So must be even more nerve wracking for you.

Omg the worry when I was having my DD was horrendous. 8 years ttc, and then after failed ivf and miscarriage a natural pregnancy.

People said I'd miss being pregnant, I fucking don't. Unfortunately the joy was taken out of it for me because the innocence was long gone. I can't say I worried less though after the first trimester either, I couldn't wait to get her out (full term obviously).

I was lucky to have a uneventful pregnancy but I couldn't believe I was getting a baby until she was in my arms.

Huge congratulations! I hope you find you relax a little after the 1st scan.

We're ttc #2 now but I think I'll be a little more relaxed this time around!

Thanks everyone. I don't expect to feel fine, but yeah I just hope after the 12 week scan I feel relatively reassured.

I've been on the IVF journey and my pregnancy definitely felt more real at 12, 24 and 30 weeks. Each stage I felt more reassured that I would finally have our DD.

Good luck OP, my 'little one' has just finished her first year at uni!

I envied people who had relaxed pregnancies. My one in a million pregnancy was just a day by day endurance, I got extra private scans for reassurance. The only thing that helped was knowing that there was nothing I could do (other than counting the kicks and eat well).

One other thing that kept me going was knowing that every day that past the risk of miscarriages decreased by small percentage.

I'm sorry to say but it got worse for me. Please speak to the midwife and get the support early on. Best wishes

Oh hun you have been through a lot I can see why you would be anxious. They are so precious to us.
my anxiety started early on and stayed throughout. I’m an anxious mum and she’s 10 now. I wish I had sought help sooner as I spent so much b time worrying I forgot to enjoy it.