To wonder if this was assault or my fault...? *Warning- sensitive content*

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Would you class this as assault or just brush it off?
Me and ex been split up since January, he’s in the house I’m at my mums with our 2 kids.

He came to get our daughter as I’m working today and I was in my dressing gown. He tried to hug me so I was like ok he’s being friendly. Then he tried kissing me and I went along with it for a few seconds. Then He shoved his hands down my pjs bottoms and I tried pushing him off but he carried on the got his knob out and tried to get me to wank him I was like stop please just get our little girl and I’m bleeding heavy luckily he did stop eventually but I was a bit scared?

That's assault. No question.

this was assault.
you need to seek medical attention and call the police.

Definitely assault. Just because you kissed him don’t mean he can get his dick out. The moment you pushed him away and he didn’t stop, it became assault.

Sorry, I don't understand the bleeding heavily comment. Did he enter you?

Fucking hell. Yes thats assault. Report that to the police!

Never let that person near you again.
He's a rapist.

It definitely is

I think op meant her period, she told him she was bleeding, sorry if that’s wrong op.
anyway definitely assault, Keep him on the door step from now on, don’t let him in

I assumed she mean he hurt her with his hands.

No sorry I didn't make it clear I meant I'm heavily on my period.
Maybe it was my fault for kissing him?

Yes, very serious sexual assault. I would gently encourage you to report this to the police.

Exactly the same thing happened to someone close to me, her ex was of the mind that she ‘belonged’ to him despite being broken up, she reported it to the police and they definitely considered it indecent assault

No. It is never the fault of the victim of an assault. You kissed him. He did the rest.

Nope. Plenty of victims try to difuse potentially threatening situations by making unwanted advances seem accepted. Do don't worry about the police not understanding that.

Even if you wanted to kiss someone, it doesn't then give them the right to stick their hands down your pants or expose themselves.

He is a sick pervert and he needs locking up. He should not be allowed to be near a child either.

It was a assault. It sounded like you only consented to the hug and kisses because it was easier than fighting it. I'd also consider approaching the police, do you feel able to do this yourself or maybe with support? I'm so sorry this happened to you, I hope you're ok, I can imagine this was a shock and felt scary in your own home but you were not in the wrong.

I'd also find a way to do hand overs elsewhere or at the very least the doorstep/garden gate from now on (preferably with someone else in the house) as I suspect these will have to continue unless you're able to prevent him from seeing you.

It's not your fault for kissing him. Just because you kiss someone it doesn't mean you give your consent for anything else.
He assaulted you, and its his fault and his fault only.

You've split up with him.

You were afraid of him and hoped it would end with the kiss so he didn't kick off in front of your young child. He then assaulted you.

Please call the police and log it.

Please, please call the police. He does not have the right to touch you.

It was assault and it was in no way your fault. Please, if you feel you can, report it to the police. This man can't be allowed in your house again, so a safe handover system will need to be put in place.
I'm so sorry this happened to you.

Maybe it was my fault for kissing him?

nothing about this is your fault.

You didn't kiss him. He kissed you, and you tried to appease him by not fighting it off. But he escalated anyway. And assaulted you.