4 month old won't play

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i've seen so many mums post videos of their 3/4 month olds playing during tummy time, rolling over, playing sensory activities and generally entertaining themselves, whether that be holding things or playing with toys.

my 4 month old, refuses to hold anything, even his bottle, i try to get him to hold it with me, but he won't. he doesn't enjoy tummy time and the only way to do it is lay down so he's looking at me or show him pictures, he doesn't reach out for any toys during.

he doesn't reach for things and doesn't seem interested in any activities, just wants to look at the tv, i've got to turn it off or he won't stop staring at it.

any advice on what i should do? i know all babies develop at different stages, should i be worried or should i keep trying to get him to interact with things? dangling toys in front of him playing with him?

TIA x

When my current baby turned 4 months she wasn't rolling or grabbing anything. By the end of her 4th month she was sitting up, still wobbly though. In her 5 th month she started to roll from back to front and sit unaided for longer. By 6 months she was grabbing stuff and rolling both ways. She is just shy of 9 months and has started waving but not clapping hands or crawling forwards. She cannot feed herself her bottle. They develop at their own pace. If you are concerned speak to you hv or gp but I would get yourself off socials and stop comparing her. A good Instagram page for motor skills is milestones and motherhood, the lady on it is a professional and she has videos on different topics like encouraging crawling for example and what to do if your baby dislikes tummy time.

*comparing him even.

4 month olds do just tend to lie there and do nothing.

Have a watch of Bluey Baby Race (find it on YouTube or Disney+) it will help with running your own baby race.

Do you have anything like a jungle gym mat? Will he reach for or look at toys above him?

At 4 months ish mine would like being under the jungle gym, or in the bouncer chair with toys in front of them. I had a tummy time spinner thing but both of mine hated it after a few moments.

As long as you're interacting with them, talking to them, responding to their attempts to interact with you and so on you'll be fine. If in a few weeks you're still concerned about him then speak to the HV team and see what they say.

I feel like at 4m DD was just a cute blob not doing too much really. She wasn't interested in playing really till 12 months! And only interested in her toys from 18 months

Neither of mine ever rolled over!
One bottom shuffled and never crawled, the other did neither!
One didn’t really talk till quite late either, but then almost immediately spoke in full sentences!

Both perfectly normal and bright kids, who’ve grown into normal adults.

4 months is really too early to worry.

Completely normal and nothing to worry about

DD1 was extremely alert, smiley, grabby and interactive at 4 months. DD2 just lies around sleeping. They're all different. Turn off the TV, enjoy your baby and try not to worry.

I cringe when i think of how many hours i spent trying to play with my dc at that age. Just enjoy the peace and quiet!

DS1 was very whingey at that age still and didn't like doing anything that wasn't drinking milk. DS2 enjoyed kicking water in the bath and kicking with his nanny off. DD enjoyed sitting in her bouncer and watching her brothers. None moved for months!

TV OFF!!! No screens at all!
But agree with PP, at 4 months babies don't do much. Give it a couple more months and you will probably see a difference.

If she's interested in you, smiling lots, holding head better, making more noise, and can hold something a few seconds, she's likely just fine.