To go on this date?

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I'm aware this is not the worst dilemma to have but I am genuinely not used to this and am not sure what to do so I appreciate any advice.

I have a group of friends that include person A and person B. A and B have been friends a very long time, childhood friends even.

Person A surprised me one evening by coming out of no where and declaring he fancied me and would love to take me on a date. I honestly have never thought of A as anymore than a friend and we've known eachother a while. I was almost certain it wouldn't go anywhere because I was not attracted to him. I was flattered but turned him down for these reasons.

Couple weeks later B says the same thing, that he fancies me and would like to go on a date.

My knee jerk reaction was to say no, because I just thought how awkward will that be between A and B, and I don't want to cause drama.

But B is more my type and I'm actually thinking I wouldn't mind going on a date with them.

But, I'm honestly not used to being asked on dates ever let alone by two people in short succession who are good friends. I've also been single for a long time.

I'm tempted to go back to B and say yes I'd like to go on that date. Here are a few of my thoughts though

1. Won't this cause issues between A and B? I don't want to do that

2. ...but part of me is thinking, why is it my responsibility to prevent drama between A and B?

3. Wouldn't A and B tell eachother if they liked me and was going to ask me on a date considering they're good friends? Are guys not like women in that sense? It seems like neither of them have a clue that each of them have asked me.

4. Should I tell them that the other person asked me on a date? Is that not any of my business to tell?

5. Am I being tricked here?!?! Part of me feels like A set B up to test me but that's not really coming anywhere from just surprise this has happened.

6. Should I just run a mile from all this?

I'm a firm believer all is fair in love and war. If you're not romantically interested in A I would let them down gently and pursue things with B

It does seem strange, if they are such good friends I would have thought it might have been mentioned that one/both of them fancied you.
I hate myself for saying this, because it did happen to me, there was a bet about who I would go with!

A threesome?

If you had been on a date (or more) with A, then unreasonable, a bit like dating someone then their brother. So as long as it is taken gently seems reasonable enough to me.

Thank you for your opinions. I just can't imagine A taking it greatly because, well I guess it's not nice to be in that position. Just makes me feel bad.

If you haven't seen it, you need to watch the movie This Means War

personally unless I really really liked B, I'm of the opinion "don't shit where you eat". It could easily complicate all the friendships.

I have not seen this but will take a look!

I also go by don't shit where you eat, but I've only really applied that to work. I never really thought it applied to friends outside of work.

I know someone who had this situation. She went on the date with B. She and B have now been married 10 years and have 2 kids.

A had a bit of a sulk and drifted out of touch with them but that might have happened anyway.

I doubt its a set up. I suspect that one of them (perhaps B) started talking about how nice and cute you are and A then noticed too and decided to beat B to it.

If you like B then go on the date.

Guys don't generally talk about these things so much, no.

You're allowed to have a preference. No to A. Yes, maybe to B. That's ok.