Little bits of money

[Woofins]

So I know AIBU for getting myself into these situations but hopefully someone assertive can advise...
I try to be s generous person not too tight with money but not a push over. But money is tight at the moment and we are feeling a financial squeeze in our household. We can just about afford the bills with little for extra. However in the past few weeks I've gotten myself into situations where people owe me smallish amounts of money but totted up it's s bit do for examples:

1. A student finished up in work to return to university. My boss was in meetings but asked if I could grab a card/ gift when out on lunch. I did it came to £20 I brought back a receipt he said he'd pay me back 2 weeks ago still no £££. Lots of people signed the card including other senior well payed management. For context I'm a junior Lowe paid staff member.
2. Going to an event with 2 cousins. I bought the tickets £30 each a few weeks ago. No sign to make attempts to pay me likely might get money at the event itself well not sure about 1 of the cousins paying lol.
3. Hosted a family member for dinner BBQ and a few drinks. Took them out on a day trip where I did lots of driving in my car. Went for a small lunch they paid which was nice! But then entry fee into a tourist site after I ended up paying as they were standing back a bit. They had no cash but offers to pay back. It was £20 for their entry

So anyway help!!! Feel like a bit of a mug but I'm just noticing to this more as money is tight. I dont think anyone is taking advantage as such but how do i bring it up tactifully?

I'd keep asking the boss. All the time.

The cousins, I'd text them a simple clear message including your bank details. Don't skirt around or apologise.

Hi Dave, here are my bank details for the £30 concert tickets. 12345. Jane.

Same with the other tickets. Keep it factual.

Why are you worried about being tactful? Just ask for it back. “Hi, lovely day out the other day, your ticket came to £X so could you transfer to my account? Bank details are XYZ”

Ask your boss how you should expense the leaving gift

Always be clear and upfront about how people are going to pay you, OP. Avoids any misunderstandings or annoyances later.

Re the boss always ask for the money upfront. "I don't have any money I'm afraid - did you want to give me some cash now or is there petty cash I should withdraw from?" - or similar.

Some people have very short memories when it comes to paying back. 🌹

If you’re really anxious then I use the credit card bill trick - ‘my credit card bill is due so can you send me the £X you owe me for Y, details are…’

Definitely keep asking for the money back. Then stop lending money. When asked say - sorry, I can’t lend you money. End of.

You’re bring a doormat. Get your money back from each one of the cheeky cunts.

As the first response suggests! Get on with it. If they don't like being asked for the money they'll have to not borrow it again.

It's a cheap way of finding out who you shouldn't lend money to.

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I imagine she did. Eight months ago.

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