To think I’ve failed at life

[Jen19871]

Been at my friends tonight. They have 2 lovely well behaved children and an immaculate 4 bed house. My kids are noisy and naughty and we have a 2 up 2 down terraced house. Feel like I’ve failed our family 😞 and I’ve had a wine so apologies for the lack of articulate post

You’ve got a house, kids and a friend. This is not failure.

Don't be silly! You have not failed. You have done the best you can and that's all you can do, your all happy and healthy and that's all that matters sometimes people have better jobs or savings and that doesn't matter either. Don't put yourself down!!

You’ve got a house, kids and a friend. This is not failure

This ^

I get the feeling. I feel that way occasionally too.

But it's true, you've a home, a family and a friend. That's not a failure.

Whose to say your family isnt the happiest family?
No point in comparing because life can change on a sixpence, key to happiness is being thankful for everything you have already got, your in a much better position than some.

Don't compare yourself to others, if life has taught me anything it's that you can't always tell on the surface how "well" someone is doing.

And tbh the fact you've got two children, a social life and a house is great.

Other peoples lives are never, ever what they seem.

be careful what you wish for!!

Comparison is the thief of joy. I bet your kids are amazing, and so are you.
Also don’t forget that what looks great from the outside isn’t always the case so don’t compare yourself on social media either! Just try to appreciate what you have xx
… this is advice for me too since my kids can be total bastards! But they are still amazing!

As so often happens, the first post nailed it.

Her kids were behaving as they've been bribed.

Her house is immaculate because she's spent ages cleaning to entertain you.

You were there as she wanted you to be 😁

I was one of those well behaved kids in a big house. It was fucking miserable and I longed to go to my friend’s noisy messy fun filled love filled cosy home.

You need friends who are poorer and who's kids are semi feral, then you'll feel great about your lot 😄

This. 😆

Come and visit me. You’ll feel grand.

There’s no reason at all to view having a home and children as having failed at anything.

There’s only one person in the world who can’t look at someone else with more, and feel jealous if he chose to, but even he probably feels envious about other things that people have had. By which I mean, it’s perfectly natural to look at people who have something that you don’t and feel envious, but everyone does it, so it says nothing about where you are, and where you could be, or should be.

Don’t beat yourself up further, just accept that there are people better off than you, and worse off (and there are billions of those) and just try to enjoy what you have.

It's like the saying goes "comparison is the theif of joy".

Also my late Nana used to say "we're all just trying to get by in this crazy world" 😆

I'm sure you're doing just fine x

Comparison is the theif of joy.

I know it's hard to not compare but try to be thankful for what you have got rather than what you havent.

I bet their kids aren't always well behaved either! You just see shapshot of others peoples lives. As for your house, it's more than some people have got and If it's a happy, cosy home then it really doesn't matter how big it is.

My children are well behaved. It's honestly mainly luck.