How much to text?

[Butterfly197]

How much is normal to text the man you are seeing? Is everyday too much?

The reason I am asking is because he said to me that I don’t need to be insecure. I’m worried he finds me too much/needy.

we laugh about this debate as we both didn’t want to be seen as needy at the start of our relationship, must have got the balance right as I just don’t think about it years on
seriously , I would keep it to a happy “how are you” type text once a day unless he sparks up a conversation via text , with the exception of sending something great like “guess what I’ve been promoted “. then allow time to settle on how much seems to be appropriate , some people text constantly all day long whilst others have a few catch-ups from time to time , it’s a personal thing as to how much I’d too much , my thoughts were not too much and allow it to build if need be
Best wishes

Just let things happen naturally. Don't force conversation but don't go for ages without talking.

I think a quick catch up every day then more intimate communication every few days is fine.

Thank you. I’m worried that he isn’t interested as he hasn’t text me today.

Seriously?

@ElCoh Yes as he read my message this morning and has not responded all day

I don’t really do the ‘small talk’ texting. I would honestly only text someone if I had something I wanted to ask or tell them. I wouldn’t ever just text someone to say ‘Hi, hope you’re having a nice day’ or something. If I asked someone a question and they read the message and didn’t answer, I might be mildly miffed. But if I just sent someone a message to tell them something or send them a daft photo or something, I wouldn’t necessarily expect a reply.

Every day for me. I need to know he is thinking about me and I like knowing he's ok, what he's up to and all the rest.

Have recently ended it with a rubbish texter. I hated the uncertainty and weird feeling his lack of contact gave me. I'm so glad to no longer be checking my phone all the time incase he messaged.

It depends who you are, surely? I can write thousands of words on text; some people are fsr less comfortable with it. I have a friend where I can't remember when we didn't have a day where we exchanged texts of some sort. I have had dates with some guys which like texting a lot, and others which are far less keen. One guy texted me every morning with "morning love," before we'd even met, with the result that we never went on a date (wasn't the only reason, to be fair,), but others who are more interesting could text every morning and it'd be fine.

But there will be all sorts of factors - they could have a job where they can't use their phone, they might have to sort out children around school. You can’t make rules, because everyone is different. Rubbish texters are less likely to click with me, but also there is more to life than texting.

For me, it's too much, and smacks of insecurity, but lots of people do like it.

My most recent new love...well we started a few months ago and at the height of the new relationship energy about 5 weeks in we were texting literally all day for hours. HOURS. Nearly lost my job.

Texting?

Last time I checked, we have WhatsApp and Signal :-)

Everyone is different. I think it's important for partners to have a similar approach to communicating. I don't like talking on the phone, so texting is my preferred means of communicating when not in person. All the guys I've been seriously interested in have been chatty texters. Pretty much on and off all day. So, if you're not happy with waiting all day for one message, and he thinks one message a day is a lot of effort, then it's not really a suitable match imo.

IME, lots of people say texting when they mean using WhatsApp, just to be clear they're not sending photos or voice or video with it. Though that could also happen.

What's Signal?