I’ve stupidly accepted 2 jobs - Help deciding please 🙏🏻

[Isabella83]

Ok so I know I’m being unreasonable but I need an outside perspective on which job I should actually go through with.

Job A - 40-50 min drive, £26k, 4 days a week working 8.30-5; with 1 day WFH.

Job B - 5 min drive/15 minute walk, £27.5k, 4 long days working 8-6 OR 5 normal days working 9-5 where I could fit the morning school run in.

Job A is my preferred choice in terms of job satisfaction, client group, and the team I’d be working with.

But Job B is obviously more convenient in terms of juggling childcare and involves less travel/fuel costs etc.

Help me decide please?

I suspect the people who are making all the negative comments have never had 2 offers...

Whoops... to continue.

Sometimes I wonder about the leaps people make.

I've been in that fortunate position. I told both employers & said I'd let them know my decision in a set period of time. I did. All good.

I did not mess them around by accepting both.

I haven't formally accepted two at the same time no.

I haven't formally accepted two at the same time no.

Me neither, for clarity - I just posted too soon by mistake!

No I assumed that is what you meant.

Good.
I find all the negative opinions extremely offensive. I do accounts, and when I am job searching it is not unusual for me to have two job offers on the table.

Good for you OP.

I don't think any of the negative posters hold themselves to the same standards they hold you to, OP. They seem to lack the very manners and consideration they're preaching about!

Enjoy your new role 🥳

Find them as offensive as you like. The OP is a health professional. They're expected to have some decency and integrity.

Add up the travel time and A is a horrendous option.

Yay! Congratulations OP. Ignore the haters and well done you, it sounds like you've worked hard for it! 👏🏻

Agree. Big error to have accepted both. You didn't need to. You could've thanked and said you'd respond by x time.

Thinking someone's behaviour isn't appropriate doesn't mean you own behaviour is. How bizarre.

*isn't

There are many times when I’ve had multiple job offers; I’ve never accepted more than one through, that’s just unprofessional. Just let them know you’re considering multiple offers, and give them a time frame. My personal reputation and integrity is a key part of what I bring to roles. In every sector I know word gets around, albeit perhaps I’m operating at a more senior level than the OP, and I’d hate to be that person. Not to mention it becoming career limiting pretty quickly if you become the candidate with a reputation for flakiness. Decent recruiters will soon realise that (shock, they talk to each other…) as will employers…

I will let A know tomorrow. I haven’t formally signed any contract yet so it shouldn’t be too much of an issue.

I’ll be honest with them (as I was in my interview) about the long commute and wanting to be closer to home for childcare etc. They understood and offered me 4 days instead of 5. I was happy to take the job because there wasn’t a better offer but now it turns out there is.

Oh and for the record, I’m a bloody fantastic health care professional, so don’t worry @ilovesooty 😉

Agree completely @Tryingtokeepgoing really sound advice.

And absolutely the world is small. I interview people fairly regularly & now have some people I would never employ, based on behaviour that has shown unreliability, lack of trustworthiness or integrity

So are you going to tell A you accepted two jobs and you're dumping them for a better offer?

At the bit of the NHS I work in (and interview for) you would have blown your chances at ever getting another interview with us. I just put that out there in case it impacts on your decision-making.

• employers. Not employees. Gah.

@EarringsandLipstick what sort of comment do you expect me to make? Why are you so keen on putting someone down who’s trying to make a living and do the right thing for their family? Have you never made a mistake?

It sounds as though she accepted A first. I think they'll know what she's done.

@Motorina thanks for the tip but neither options are NHS

Ffs @ilovesooty you are far too invested in this. You’re talking like I’m the first person in history to back out of a job offer for something better suited. You’re really boring me now.

You haven't acknowledged that you made a mistake tho, apart from saying you were UR in your OP

Throughout the thread you've acted as if you've been completely within your rights.

You didn't have to do this for your family, blah blah. You could have been honest with the employers, and / or asked for time to make a decision.

That's what most people do, if they are honest & have integrity.

Oh I apologise for boring you. I suspect you just don't like what I'm saying.