To want to kick myself for being an idiot!!?!

[Whaaawhydididothat]

Firstly, I’d be interested if anyone knows if it’s possible to delete a message on LinkedIn??!!

ex and I broke up about 10 years ago not in bad terms, we were young and careers took us to opposite sides of the world. Have moderately missed him/regretted it ever since.

Im sure he’s single. I am too now. He’s doing v v well for himself and I sent him a LinkedIn message yesterday saying that I’d stumbled across his page, was impressed by his work and wished him well with it. Didn’t ask any questions. No response. OMFG!!! How do I remove this message?! Is that even possible? It’s one of the ones that says “message pending” or something like that, ‘in Mail’. HELP!

Why? Just leave it. It's pretty innocent don't worry about it

I can’t bear it!! Wish I hadn’t sent it now!

It'll be in his message request inbox, which he would have to click into to check.
That's if your not following him

I don’t know, I just checked and it was one of those “inmail” messages. When I receive these they go straight into my Normal inbox I think? im cringing because I’ve just remembered LinkedIn send reminders if you don’t reply to a message don’t they?! 😱

I wouldn't worry about it - I check my Linkedin about once every few months. Not everyone is on it like it's Facebook. He'll see it when he's on there next, but even so it doesn't mean he'll reply.

But your message is fine - not quite sure what the panic is about?!

That’s true, I hardly use mine either. He’s self employed so would imagine it’s a bit more regular. There’s no way to delete this is there?!!

Because he didn’t reply 🤣 I’m cringing. It was pot luck - he’d either think “that’s nice” or “WTF are you messaging me 10 years later, weirdo?” 🤣

Even if you deleted it, won’t it tell him that you looked at his profile?

It tells me who has looked at mine.

im set to private thank god!

I mistakenly sent a wrong message type, a week or two back, more question based than actual proof so to speak so if they had a gut feeling already they could dig deeper so to speak, then it was oh pickles I made an error, and then thought it's better to delete, block and coverup.

Or he's not thinking about it at all. I rarely look at my LinkedIn messages let alone reply, because I can't be arsed!

Seriously don't worry about it op
Sleep on it and you'll feel better in the morning. It's nothing

In which case he could have looked at yours and you wouldn’t know. Maybe he did.

He may still reply and have wondered about you too.

I think you are far too pessimistic about this.

True. I think I’m just fixating on how it could actually look like quite a weird thing to do in retrospect. When I typed it, I thought it was a fairly laid back message, I didn’t ask anything of him. But on reflection, if he’s not interested i am dying if he’s thinking it’s strange - it was 10 YEARS AGO.

It was ages ago and you didn't break up on bad terms
I don't see it as any different to checking in with an old acquaintance
I think you're massively overthinking this

Thanks for talking me down everyone 😓

He’s probably just busy to reply

Maybe - it was only sent yesterday I suppose. I swear I’m not usually this neurotic!

He probably hasn't seen it yet. For what it's worth, I did exactly the same a few years ago and it worked out very well

I really think the message is fine.
Give him chance !

It was a perfectly normal message to someone you used to know.
You didn't ask any questions so there is no actual need for a reply. He isn't ignoring you necessarily, you sent a message, he read it, he carried on with his life.
You are over thinking it all. (Did you allow a little part of your mind to imagine your wedding and the names you might give to your children). Perfectly normal. Lots of us have done it. Move on and forget all about it.

So true, thanks everyone.

Dont know what you’re talking about, Angelina, the thought hadn’t crossed my mind 🤥 😂

Pray do tell 👀

Err, what? This seems a massive overreaction.