Husband

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So the husbands in a bad mood with me.

I'm going out tomorrow with my dad and youngest son. I didn't ask my husband if he wanted to come. He rarely comes with me to anything. Apparently I should have asked him, he's said he doesn't want to come but that it would have been nice if I'd asked him first instead of my dad although I didn't ask my dad, I told him my plans and he said he'd like to come with me.

AIBU for not asking my husband first?

He sounds nice. I’m guessing this is the tip of the iceberg.

Your husband needs to grow up.

Sounds like he just wanted you to ask permission

Do you do much with him? I’m not sure if he’s feeling a bit neglected and pushed out and he just wants to know you would like to spend time with him, or if he’s being sulky/controlling.

I like to be asked even if I don’t want to go.

It's impossible to tell from this post who's being unreasonable
Without background either one could be being unreasonable here

Is he 7?

I guess shouldn't have assumed he didn't want to go. I'll ask my DP if he wants to go even though I already know it's not his thing. He'll just say "Go have fun, is it alright if I just stay in?" But every now and then he'll surprise me and want to come.

But he sounds a bit petty to be upset about it if he says he doesn't want to come along anyways.

"I didn't ask you because you never want to go anywhere with me".

I hope you enjoy your outing with your dad and son.

Unfortunately it sounds as though you and your husband have checked out of your marriage and have stopped communicating, in fact you don't like each other.

This won't magically improve so decide what you want to do; drift along or make changes. x

Would have been nice if you'd asked him even if you knew he wouldn't want to go. Would you be OK with him arranging a family type trip without asking you if you wanted to be involved?

Impossible to tell without knowing the background.