A particular friend of DD very nosey

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They are only 9, i get that this is an inquisitive age, however, this one particular girl seems to be much nosier than dd's other friends.

For eg she will be with dd who is chatting away to her, but she will be ignoring her because she is listening to my conversation (which is nothing exciting) also whenever she comes round I am catching her looking through everything!

Dd & friend will come downstairs, dd enters living room, friend will be a few minutes behind because on the way down she is peaking behind doors, looking in things, touching things, it drives me crazy. I hear her whispering to dd "lets go in your mums room". I obviously don't allow this.

I find it really rude, it's far beyond the normal looking around someones house nosiness as everyone does that including me, but it's usually with a glance not up close and personal/touching things.

AIBU?

It irritates me to no end!

It sounds annoying but she’s just a kid. She will learn to reign it in as she gets older. For now just say to her straight ‘please don’t look through our things’.

My daughter had a similar friend. She grew out of it but while she was like this, she had no boundaries at all. If you told her not to go in your room, she’d do it anyway.
I think just be firm and kind.

DD had a friend like that I just stopped her visiting. & she never grew out of it as far as I hear. I can't be bothered with pussyfooting around these kind of things, 9 is more than old enough to know better. If you can't respect me and my home then just go home and creep about there for all I care. Thats it.

My brother had a friend like that, he was the nosiest little bugger I ever met, he joined the police, none of us were surprised!

My DD had a friend like this in primary school. Her last visit was when I downstairs chatting to her mum, who had come to collect her, and the girls were upstairs. DD came downstairs and said "X is hiding under your bed mum, and she's been sick on your wedding album!"

You can imagine the look on both our faces...

DD has a friend like this, I think it’s terribly ill-mannered behaviour. I usually bluntly tell her to stop: ‘gosh, that’s incredibly nosey, you shouldn’t go rooting through peoples’ things when you visit other peoples’ houses, come out of there and play nicely in DD’s bedroom’.

Obviously, her own DM should be telling her about boundaries, but the mum’s a bit of a wet lettuce. Terribly kind and nice, but every bit of bad behaviour is met with ‘aw, X, that isn’t very kind, sweetie’ etc, no matter the scale of the behaviour. There’s never an actual bollocking, regardless of the level of misdemeanour, quite mean and bullying behaviour is let go with the same ineffective response as much more minor stuff. Hence the girl just does what she pleases, basically, and doesn’t have much impulse control.