To Tell My Friend To Not Talk About Crush Constantly

[Loveacurry]

Name change just in case!

I am going on a holiday with a group of friends. None of us have been on holiday together. My friend, who I love dearly, is smitten with one of the men that's going.

She's liked him for close to a year now but in the last few months, because we're going on holiday with him, it's pretty much all I hear about when we meet or in texts/calls. I listen for a while and then try to talk about something else but whenever I do this, she always manages to relate it to him in some way. Also, if I talk about anything that is happening with me, she talks about it very briefly and is straight back on to her crush. For instance, if we meet him, every look he gives her (he doesn't seem interested past being friends) or things that he says are gone over and over for clues that he may like her.

We get on so well apart from this and I don't want to hurt her but she is draining me already. I don't know how I can listen to two weeks of this. If anyone has advice, I'd be so grateful!

Oh, no. Commiserations. RIP your holiday. There is not much you can do other than gently change the subject or avoid her. It may be he feels the need to let her know he's not interested in her, if he finds the attention odd or oppressive, and then you will probably get the obsessed dissecting of that, plus her grief. Have you ever flat out said I think he only likes you as a friend? It sounds tiresome.

Yawn loudly and make snoring noises.

Options are-
Avoid one to one conversation with friend where possible
Asking if she would mind talking about something else
Put up with it
If crush is going on holiday spend lots of time talking to him. She can't talk about him then.

Oh god, she is me when I was 16, I cringe now thinking about it!

Just tell her to ask him out, then she will have her answer either way. She is probably hoping for a drunken declaration of love whilst away.

Change the subject every time she brings it up, if she moves the convo back, just change it again. Last resort just say you are bored of talking about him as he isn't that interesting. She will get the point sooner or later

Thank you everyone! It really reminds me of when I was 16 too, Maybebabyno2!

Ive tried gently bringing the topic away, telling her to ask him out so that she finally knows, and when I say can we talk about something else, she goes in a huff where she says she's not in a huff 🙄I've mentioned that she may be reading too much into his every move and seeing things that just aren't there but she's convinced that a hug, where he was hugging everyone else individually, means that there's more.

If I speak to him, she 'pretends' that she's jealous... but clearly is... and goes on about me speaking to him for DAYS.

Wonder if it's too late to cancel this holiday!! 😐