I recently had a dispute with my neighbour and was curious for thoughts on whether I was being unreasonable.
Neighbour lives above me and has his living room above my bedroom. His living room is uncarpeted and he's a night owl so I unfortunately hear quite a lot and it often interferes with my sleep. Mostly it's just him walking about/playing on his Wii thing/playing music so I haven't mentioned it to him and just make do with earplugs and white noise. The music does get quite annoying because his sound system seems to be just over my bed.
Last weekend he had a party and was blaring music that I could hear word perfect. I held put for as long as I could but at 11.40pm I was desperate to sleep and went upstairs to speak to him. He came out just as I was getting to the top of the stairs and I asked him to please turn the music down. He had to ask me to repeat myself 3x and close the door to his flat because he couldn't hear me over the music. He said "ok". When I went downstairs, the music was turned up for a few minutes but was then turned down.
The next evening, the neighbour knocked on my door and told me never to knock on his door or go neat him again. He said he's a very quiet neighbour and it's my problem if I want to go to bed early at the weekend. He said he bought his house and will have a party if he wants. I felt really uncomfortable - he's a really tall guy in his late 50s and I'm female in my early 30s. I'm a single mum and was in my house alone with my 2 kids at the time. I felt he was quite aggressive - physically coming close to me and the tone qas quite menacing. I was really polite and apologised for the inconvenience but said I was trying to sleep and was only asking for it to be turned down. He kept repeating never to knock on his door again and to stay away from him. I didn't even knock on his door because he came out before I had a chance to. I have anxiety and since it happened, I've been questioning myself and whether I was being unreasonable, but it's also made me feel really anxious about running into him in the communal stair. AIBU?