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Eating sweets and no actual meals on some days??

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crispytowel · 24/05/2022 20:07

Really embarrassed but I think I need some help with this one... I have a busy job in the NHS and two DC so I have a lot to juggle in one day. Not much time to eat mindfully and if I'm not organised enough to think ahead about lunch I often end up eating cookies and chocolate bars - and coffee. It's a slippery slope as the more I eat sugar the more I crave it. In the eve if DH is late I might skip dinner and eat more choc or ice cream... am I the only one? Is it complete madness?? How do I stop this? I am a healthy weight so that's not the issue but it makes me feel so ashamed and immature!!

OP posts:
Bronzeturtle · 24/05/2022 22:25

Would you consider huel? It takes seconds to make, nutritional complete and tastes….ok. Does fill you up! My sil has it when she works in a and e and gets no breaks. You can buy ready made to.

CantHaveTooMuchChocolate · 24/05/2022 22:29

If you still want a sweet bar like thing but slightly better are the high protein bars, some with peanuts, fruit, etc or whey protein, at least gives you some protein and a small amount of nutrition. Better still those packets of oatcakes (someone else mentioned this too), I snack on these in the morning.

SunshinePie · 24/05/2022 22:31

You are going to make yourself ill. You need to start taking better care of yourself. Self care isn’t selfish, it’s essential.

Iamthewombat · 24/05/2022 22:46

Don’t end up like my mother. She did this for years: skipped eating proper meals so that she could eat biscuits and ice cream instead. Hardly ever sat down to eat with the family. Raging sugar addiction. She now has type 2 diabetes and the unpleasant symptoms that go with it. Which her children are dealing with. Sorry to rain on your parade, but this is what the future looks like if you don’t sort out your diet.

I can see that several posters have said, “I do exactly the same, but my weight is fine!” and “but sweet things/ice cream are my only vice and I’m just so busy and stressed!”. Eating sweets and biscuits instead of proper food isn’t a vice you want to boast about. You can get away with it for a bit, but it catches up with you.

buzzing · 24/05/2022 22:51

I hear you, this is me to a tee. Am a complete emotional eater too so can easily inhale an entire packet of biscuits after a bad meeting at work.

Am on a good run at the moment - things that are helping are meal planning evening meals - nothing that takes too long, tonight was fish cakes & couscous. Takes away the need to think at the end of the day when I am all thought out.

And I’m calorie counting but with a target of 2000 calories - I could do with losing half a stone so nothing drastic but in the past I’ve cut it down to something much lower, starved myself then chucked in the towel and binged on chocolate.

Good luck, breaking a dependency on sugar is a really hard thing to do.

lameasahorse · 24/05/2022 22:54

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TheBestForLast · 24/05/2022 23:00

Tonight I came home from work around six. DC had tea at grandparents. I came home and ate 3 large pieces of fudge, 2 bags of crisp, half a large dime bar and handful of midget gems. I shoved a banana in to make myself feel better. Then around I had cheese on toast. I feel crap, bloated and struggling to sleep.

This is most nights.

I don't know how but my weight is 9st 10.

Eeksteek · 24/05/2022 23:02

Hell yes. I don’t eat fruit at all (it’s all slimy to me) but I try hard to eat lots of veg instead. Not always successfully. I’m trying to eat more veg, but cheaply and without using too much extra electric. These are things that work for me.

Soup is my go to. I make it in a soup maker, and it’s very quick with pre chopped fresh or frozen veg. I tip in frozen onions, chopped veg, a small packet of fresh herbs and stock pot thingy. Top up with boiling water and off it goes (I do carrot and coriander, tomato and Basil, beetroot and thyme, and squash and sweet potato or pea and mint) It does it’s thing for about twenty mins while I cook dinner, I pour into tubs and freeze as I tidy up. I don’t even label them, just pull one out on the way out if the door. I heat them up in a mug and drink them. It seems easier than sitting down with a bowl. I bought a big stack of takeaway style tubs from eBay to freeze them in. You can add grated carrot, tins of sweet corn/peas or fresh spinach to ready made soups and pasta sauces. They cook so quickly, they’re done by the time it’s heated through (maybe and extra minute or two for the carrot). Tinned carrots dissolve to mush, if you don’t want extra texture.

If I make a cheese sauce, I add raw spinach or cooked squash/sweet potato mixes (microwaved in the bag first) and blend. They squash one is great for macaroni cheese, and the spinach version goes bright green. You can tell the children it’s snot sauce. I also have two awesome veggie lasagne recipes I’ll post if you’re interested. Against, a faff, but freeze well.

I also make bread rolls on Friday while I’m making pizza. DD loves making dough shapes for me to bake, so it keeps her amused and the oven is on anyway. Ok, I eat weird shaped lunches, but the fresh bread is so much nicer than bought, it feels quite special. I carelessly throw them in the freezer, and microwave them when I want them.

The other thing I sometimes do is make vegetable rosti. They are an absurd faff, but SO good. I grate (thats the faffy bit) carrots, courgette, squash and sweet potato, let them sit on a towel to dry. Mix in a egg, shape the into cakes and bake in batches until they go crispy, and fling in the freezer. They are SO delicious, and you can just grab a couple and microwave to go with whatever your having for dinner or scoff as a snack. They are lovely for lunch with cream cheese and only take a minute to heat through.

I often bake an extra tray of roasted vegetables if I’m doing a roast dinner. They are nice for lunch on their own, but even nicer for a quick mid-week dinner with a baked Brie to dunk them in. Baked celeraic or sweet potato wedges are very nice. About half an hour in a halogen oven. I make them first and dunk them in mayo as a starter while I’m waiting for the meat (sometimes having eaten the salad while I’m waiting for the veg to cook). Eating veg before my meal also often seems easier.

A sweet potato with pizza toppings is messy, but amazing, either roasted or baked. Failing that, beans on toast. Baking a sweet potato takes a bit of time (although not as much as regular potato) but you can just leave it alone while you do other things (I poke a couple into gaps in the Sunday roast to fill the oven up and reheat during the week.)

greenbirdsong · 24/05/2022 23:06

I'm the same OP.
I'm so embarrassed and don't know how to change. I am addicted to sugar and it's a really difficult one to break.

SushiGo · 24/05/2022 23:07

A banana has like 100 calories
A bag of sweets can have 1000

Sounds like you have a physical job? Your body is pushing you towards those unhealthy options so that you actually have enough calories to get through the day.

Lots of good suggestions for healthier instant food here, but don't feel bad about yourself. It's a really common thing to happen when you are genuinely running yourself ragged and too exhausted/time poor to cook properly.

Margo34 · 24/05/2022 23:08

Reads this while looking guiltily at the empty bakery aisle 5-pack of double choc cookies, the near-empty sharing bag of giant buttons and the discarded empty sharing pack of crisps at my feet 🙄

I did eat a home cooked meal, an apple and some blueberries as well today though. I've just gorged while husband is out this evening!!

OversBo · 24/05/2022 23:10

Things that help me.

A good vitamin and mineral supplement seems to reduce my cravings for sugar. Worth trying to remember to take one regularly if you can.

get an insulated bottle for keeping cold drinks cold, it helps encourage me to drink more water. I was finding I craved crap when really I was thirsty.

Easy snacks you can eat straight from the packet / Tupperware. -

pre made hummus and veg sticks
Nuts
popcorn
pre roasted chicken strips
slices of basil and olive tofu
cooked cocktail sausages
smoked salmon
dried mixed fruit - dates are sugary but have a few minerals.
instant noodles

LuckySantangelo35 · 24/05/2022 23:14

ElenaSt · 24/05/2022 20:20

When I'm pushed for time and on my own I have a Complan which is powder you mix with water. I add more water than they suggest.

@ElenaSt

nobody is that busy that they need to resort to this surely?!

a banana and a bag of crisps would be better

LuckySantangelo35 · 24/05/2022 23:18

buzzing · 24/05/2022 22:51

I hear you, this is me to a tee. Am a complete emotional eater too so can easily inhale an entire packet of biscuits after a bad meeting at work.

Am on a good run at the moment - things that are helping are meal planning evening meals - nothing that takes too long, tonight was fish cakes & couscous. Takes away the need to think at the end of the day when I am all thought out.

And I’m calorie counting but with a target of 2000 calories - I could do with losing half a stone so nothing drastic but in the past I’ve cut it down to something much lower, starved myself then chucked in the towel and binged on chocolate.

Good luck, breaking a dependency on sugar is a really hard thing to do.

@buzzing

2000 cals is actually pretty high.

You don’t need 2000 cals a day unless very very active.

You certainly won’t lose any weight on 2000 cals a day

Stompythedinosaur · 24/05/2022 23:22

I'm a nurse who recognises this. No food during a shift as no chance of a break, and cups of coffee is the language nurses use to express care for each other.

LuckySantangelo35 · 24/05/2022 23:28

LadyLothbrook · 24/05/2022 22:13

I'm really pleased at how this threads gone. I'm so used to posters attacking the OP on mumsnet now I opened this expecting a barrage of comments shaming the OP for her diet. Nice to see so many responding in support and going through the same thing. Hope you can resolve this if its making you miserable OP and PPs.

Me too!

DressingGownofDoom · 24/05/2022 23:37

I think you have to try to force a meal in and then you're too full for all the sugar later. It helps to look online to see if there's something you really fancy eating like if I take a fancy of a lovely garlicky spaghetti bolognese then I know I'll make it the next day and it puts me off eating all the junk...helps some of the time anyway.

Okaaaay · 24/05/2022 23:42

I’m with you OP. Two DC, full time job and everything else. I skip at least one meal in favour of chocolate and goodies.

Decafflatteplease · 24/05/2022 23:44

Reading through with relief it's not just me. I wouldn't say I'm addicted to sugar but can definitely resonate with the stress eating and grabbing what's easiest when yiu haven't got headspace. I've been known to have crisps for breakfast which is really not great. Evening meals are fine though.

I'm trying to make changes and taking it one meal at a time. Things I've found helpful are

Starting with fruit for breakfast eg cereal and banana takes seconds. Or a seeded bagel with cshew butter and sliced banana, getbthose good fats in.

No caffeine after 2pm

Buying ready to eat things for lunch eg hummus and tortilla chips in a pot, cooked chicken, those cheese and cracker pots, ready chopped up fruit eg melon or pineapple

Hope that helps

threecupsofteaminimum · 24/05/2022 23:48

Oh god I'm just like this! I a size 10, always have been but if I fancy an ice cream and a bar of chocolate or 2 for dinner I'll have them!

Decafflatteplease · 24/05/2022 23:50

Calmdown14 · 24/05/2022 20:48

If you are not bothered about a hot meal and like sweet, what about something like overnight oats?
I buy the frozen breakfast toppers in Aldi (full of fruit and seeds)and make while cleaning my teeth before bed. Chuck the oats straight from packet into container, chuck a bit of the frozen topper on and slop yoghurt from a big pot on top. I don't do measuring. Takes about 30 seconds and you could do a couple of days worth at once.

If you prefer to have mid morning and eat biscuits for lunch it looks quite acceptable!

Hi what are the frozen breakfast toppers please do you have a pic.

CherrySocks · 24/05/2022 23:53

Don't buy chocolate etc so there's none to grab.

Do buy: healthy snacks, ready to eat salads (with some protein in eg egg, chicken, salmon), nice sandwiches, nutritious packet meals you just stick in oven, wholesome soups that just need heating, fruit salad packs, cereal bars, fruit and nut mix bags, party finger foods you can just grab and eat, individual quiches, cocktail sausages, cherry tomatoes, low fat crisps, fruit yoghourts in individual pots, pre-cooked chicken drumsticks, small wholemeal rolls, easy cheese spread, muesli, etc etc

reader12 · 24/05/2022 23:54

Well I eat healthy meals but also eat all the crap, and am overweight as a result.

One super easy thing to try is microwave rice - the Tilda spicy Mexican one has a few beans in it too for a bit more nutrition - 2 minutes in the microwave. If you have any, grate some cheese on top and maybe chop a tomato / avocado / raw pepper while it’s in the microwave and it makes a pretty good meal for an exhausted person with almost zero effort. And easy to eat in front of the tv. It’s a good trick for one handed lunch with a new baby too.

field kitchen frozen meals are good too and very nutritious, but they’re quite expensive and you need enough freezer space for them and more time in the microwave so not as easy as the rice.

Omega33 · 25/05/2022 00:09

I was like this when I was younger. I had to stop buying chocolate so that I couldn't reach for it, and start buying easy meals, e.g. ready meals, microwave rice, pasta and jar sauce.

However once I had DC, I started eating a lot with them and that's what helped the most. You can't just chuck a pot noodle at a 2 year old, so once I was making healthy meals for DC, it wasn't much extra effort to make a portion for myself. It might be complicated depending on shifts etc, but if you cook for DC can you eat the same as them?

tinseltits21 · 25/05/2022 00:23

I do this and I find that it's often when I've allowed myself to become overly hungry that I reach for the cakes/chocolate etc rather than a proper meal because my body is desperate for energy and and wants a lot of it quickly so it's easier to reach for a chocolate bar than spend time making a sandwich. I tend to find that on days when I am eating regularly eg breakfast, snack, lunch, snack, dinner, snack, I am less likely to subsitute meals for junk and I think this is because my body isn't so desperate for an energy hit. Cake/chocolate etc might still be a snack on these days but it doesn't substitue a meal and I don't feel the need to eat as much of it as when I haven't eaten regularly during the day.