Name changed for this but don't really know why.
I drop DD off at school before I go to work at 9, and, as my partner is busy and has his own business, if my work dictates I pick her up from afterschool club by 6. I manage this often but I work 30 miles away and traffic is awful so I'm often pushing it. I picked DD up last night, and I said I could do today. Traffic looked OK originally but got worse and worse.
I was determined not to ring my partner as knew he had meetings until late. I made it at 5:59pm to find gates closed, no one there! The caretaker was just leaving and asked if I was ok. I explained I was meant to be getting DD and he said she'd been picked up, but we didn't know who by.
Cue some ringing around, partner didn't answer the phone. The caretaker rang the deputy manager of afterschool club, who said her dad had got her half an hour previous!
When I got home I was so annoyed he hadn't told me and that I'd driven home in an panic for no reason. He said he'd told me last night (I'm certain he didn’t) and that I was going mad forgetting things. He does have form for this and twists everything I say.
I (rightly or wrongly) was angry with him and I said from now, he gets DD (he works from home), no arguments. I like picking her up but I'm sick of constantly rushing around and almost giving myself a panic attack in bad traffic.
I feel such an idiot for almost crying in front of the poor caretaker, but for a minute I did not know where DD was. I must have sounded neurotic and highly strung on the phone to the manager (I like to keep that side of me under wraps normally 😅).
I feel partner should have confirmed he was getting DD.
AIBU?