I feel like death, but hubby always worse

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I feel dreadful. Really heavy cold and can feel a sinus infection coming.
Hubby down with same thing but he's much worse and in bed.
I'm trying to get toddler fed and put to bed and keeping the house going while feeling rotten.
I just want to curl up on the sofa to be honest.

Every time this happens DH is always worse than me and I have to keep the plates spinning.
Nothing against my hubby really as he always gets bugs worse than me, it's just bloody typical isn't it?

Hand hold please!
(A bit light hearted also).

I almost feel like having a large glass of wine would actually help me right now.

Man flu is life threatening, dontcha know!! 🤣🤣

He's a chancer
Who says he gets colds worse.....him?!??😄

My exh was like this, if I slept badly, headache, tired you name it he had it too. I was never allowed to just be unwell. I’m surprised he didn’t get PMT

Is he genuinely worse than you or is that just what he's claiming?

Has he gone for the Dressing Gown of Doom yet?

It wouldn't take long for me to go right off someone who was always sicker.

Get him to share the load OP, or justified resentment will start to be a real factor in your marriage.

Hope you feel better soon.

You both feel awful and you need to muddle through as much as possible. Time to tell him you need to do this together so you both get a rest. I am a lone parent now and late DH worked unsociable hours so just retiring to bed was/is not an option, although of course it is very much just 'do what is needed to get by'. Best to calmly sort this out before you loose your shit with him. Tell him you are ill as well, it is not a competition and unfortunately parents do not get sick leave. You will both get better quicker if you can both get rest.

Tell him he can do morning as you are doing bedtime or he can hobble down and you can do it together. Ignore any passive aggresive remarks about how ill he is- just 'yes this bug is bloody awful, I feel just the same so let's get this done and get through it so we can rest'. Thats parenthood for most people.

Men!

Tell him he has to do his bit as you are unwell too. Unfair of him to lie in bed whilst you are doing everything.

I have a dh like that! At first I genuinely thought he got things worse than I did. Now it's a standing joke when dc say what's wrong with dad why is he in bed? And I say 'you know that cold we have all had, the one where you still went to school and I still went to work! Well dad has it now!

Sounds about right. Men always have worse ailments and 'illnesses,' and especially when the children are little/primary school age. The more 'ill' they are, the less they have to do. I know so many women who have/have had husbands and partners who seem to be ill quite often at Christmas. (Leaving all the gruntwork, chores, childcare, and 'guest entertaining' to his wife.)

Men aren't more adversely affected by illness and that includes your DH. He's just better at garnering sympathy. Men think they have the inalienable right to down tools, while women feel an obligation to keep going no matter how wretched they feel. T'was ever thus. I'm sure some men are better than this, but many of them are very self-centred when it comes to sickness and household/family responsibilities. Sadly, none of this is helped by us women limping on, because then it looks as if we're ok when we're anything but, thus propagating the myth.

Feel you OP. I was laid up with a broken leg, yet my DH whined constantly that his knee hurt I’d be insisting he pitch in!

Take a Sudafed, two paracetamol and a coffee and that'll sort out the majority of what's making you both feel like crap.

I don't get ill often, but when I do, I'm knocked on my arse completely, whereas DP can generally bumble on through all but the very worst.

You're both sick, he has had a rest now you need to go and have a rest.
Christ, the shit some people are willing to put up with!

My DH used to do this. Now we're divorced. I told him once he needed to see a doctor due to his repeated sickness - all of a sudden he was better.

Have the wine.

Tell him he's had a rest and he can get his arse up and parent.

Dh did this until I broke my ankle and he complained his was aching! I told him how ridiculous it was that I was never allowed to be Ill or in pain without his being worse, he hasn't done it since

Well oestrogen does protect women from the flu (Link)
Not sure how effective against it is against the common cold though!

Or don’t because that’s double paracetamol which is dangerous.

He doesn't get it worse

Go and tell him to get up and help put the kid to bed and never bother tidying up.

It can wait

STBXH does this. We'll both be sick and he'll take himself to bed to recover, can't possibly help look after our DC who are either also sick or bored and too much energy from being inside all day. Always takes me longer to recover because I don't get to rest. If I insist he shares the load he'll be horrible to everyone, it's easier just doing it on my own.

@BearFacedCheekGrylls
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Oh gosh yes this is so familiar!!
Dp once said to me "you never seem to get things as seriously as me"
No love, I just whinge less than you 🤦‍♀️

I did read once that, back in humanity's hunter/gatherer days, men evolved to have a heightened immune response because they were useless as hunters if they were sick, so better for the body to kill the infection ASAP even though that took them right out of commission. Women evolved to have a more muted immune response that allowed them to continue to perform their role, at the cost of taking longer to fight off the infection.

However, I just Googled to see if there was any truth in that, and there doesn't seem to be 😁 I did come across www.webmd.com/cold-and-flu/news/20171211/does-flu-hit-men-harder-than-women-maybe-so which was interesting.