Would lies bother u?

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how Much would it bother u if u recently found out ur husband lied a lot to u?

I’m mostly an honest person (will tell small white lies once in a while eg- say I didn’t hear my phone ring if my mum calls and I’m busy and haven’t got time to talk or will agree with a friend if it saves her additional upset etc) I don’t tell big lies and I am always honest with my husband- not even white lies. I always thought he was the same. Past 3 months I’ve realised he lies a lot- from where he is- what he’s bought- things at work etc. I don’t suspect he’s cheating but feel I don’t know him. He’s always losing things- he recently lost his AirPods which he got as a present. We spent weeks looking for them all over the house- I was genuinely gutted as he only had them a couple of weeks. I found out a few days ago he knew exactly where and when he lost them- on a train so no way of getting them bk and def no possibility of finding them in a drawer at home.

how much would this bother u? I just q how much I know him at all. Been together 22 years. Please feel free to say I’m totally overthinking this. Thanks!

Hi, I have a teenage DS, who is so decent and has SO much integrity, total opposite of H. I have to ask his version of events sometimes, so that I get the true version. He can see it too now he's older. I think he feels its a bit sad/pathetic really.
I call H out every time I spot it and have lost all respect for him. If it feels like a lie, it probably is in my case! Used to think it was me/ my memory as he'd twist things or make lame excuses, he is also a massive procrastinator.
I'm past caring why he does it, he promises he'll stop, then a few days later he does it again over something silly, he can't seem to see (or care?) that I absolutely hate it 😒
Sorry, not v helpful, but if you still have patience and love for him, that will help you. Good luck x