Having fun with your partner

[Pandapanic]

After a difficult few years-MH, babies, finance issues etc my husband and I awknowledge that we havn’t been the best partnership at times and have lost our sense of “ us” . Life seems mundane and hard work a lot of the time and resentment creeps in and communicating well can be difficult. So we have had a good chat about the future of our relationship, possibly trying counselling soon but one thing we are proactively trying to do is spend more time together and try and enjoy each other’s company/ have fun. I need your tips!
what type of things do you are your partner like to do together at home? I would love some ideas, so far we have read a book together and discuss ( we both like reading), so a Pilates class together online , learn a language- but can’t even decide what one!
We have small kids so has to be things we can do at home after they go to bed .
Pre babies we would go out walking together, trips out etc
We don’t have a natural “ shared” interest as such really but are committed to trying to have more fun and enjoy life together rather than just sit on the sofa scrolling on all phones evening.
What makes you are your partner feel connected?

I know this isn’t an AIBU but thinking this might be helpful for others too.
Thank you!

Learn a new board game or 3, do a jigsaw puzzle, buy a big lego model to work on.

We bought a SNEZ and we play that together. Or we open a wine and do an online pub quiz against each other. Scrabble but that tends to cause arguments 🤣

• paint a portrait/line drawing of each other
• card games with incentives/forfeits
• online massage tutorials
• learn a language together
• MarioKart tournament

Have fun OP! Do you have your own individual activities outside the house during the week too? I think that time away from each other doing something you love is important too.

Computer gaming and board games. But dh is super competitive so it's not always fun 😆

If you go on Etsy lots of small companies sell different date night packages that can be fun e.g. solve a murder mystery, paint a picture etc.

My husband and I enjoy playing video games together - especially something that's very narrative and there's a mystery to solve like Everyone's Gone To The Rapture or Disco Elysium. More fun and chatty than just watching tv.

We have played cards, jigsaw, done garden stuff together, baked something quick like scones whilst the other makes drinks

We used to play lots of card games, on weekends we'd also try to 'do' something with the kids, a family activity. It's easier when the dc are older as you can do things like go karting, rock climbing etc. but maybe some smaller dc activity, or can your dc do an activity, maybe brownies and you and dh can go out for a walk whilst they are there?

Cook something nice and sit down at the table together and talk.
Listen to music and drink wine.
Go for a walk in the woods/by the river with the kids and chat/hold hands.
Sit on the sofa together to watch a film with wine and nibbles.

We do jigsaws and listen to podcasts; play on the switch or the ps5, play board games - if you like them and you want a little project then pandemic legacy games are amazing

Anything food or drink based for us. We've done online wine tasting, bought some of those toasting inside marshmallows and sometimes cook themed dinners together

We love watching giggle box while having a few drinks and chatting
Listening to music you loved as teens
Cards in the pub together
We do Brazilian juijitsu together - have a scrap which is funny
Bike ride
Dog walk

Play darts in the garden
Find an interesting recipe and make it together.
Do a crossword or soduko
Watch a how ro draw video on you tube and both have a go.
Do mini wine tastings for each other.
Watch a video on madsage techniques and practice on partner.
Watch question time and debate the topics.
Research destinations we would like to go.

Ah thanks everyone these are great!
will check you the Etsy packages but also love the sound of the wine tasting at home , themed nights cooking. Husband does jigsaws himself sadly I have no interest in these but would give the drawing/ painting a go!
thanks to everyone for your suggestions, will definitely plan some of these in! Planning and committing to do something is half the battle isn’t it?! Actually doing it is the other battle, especially after a long day, kids, work etc but inspired by you all!
My husband has an xbox so will maybe check out some of those games mentioned as maybe I could have a go- happily will play mario with of my kids of the wii!