This screams guilt?aibu?

[pinkflowersinmyhair]

You may remember my thread a year ago.
My "friend" who basically never liked me,reported me to my local club where I deal with the money side of things /charity nights/booking bands etc
She said that I was stealing from the club (I wasn't and it was proved)
She reported me anon after I struck up a successful friendship with one of her friends.
She went on some sort of mission to turn people against me.

Anyway I fast forward a year I'm not angry anymore,I have nothing to do with her or the mutual friend we had (as she listened to her)
I have a nice life and I'm happy again after she tried to tarnish my name.
She always said to mutual friends it wasn't her (but I know the chairman v v well and it was her as it was her phone number but she left no name)

Sunday I was out in town having a few cocktails.
One of her friends is on my Instagram and viewed my story.
She then messaged asking if I was still in town.
I said no and she replied "oh would have been nice for a catch up"
Turns out the one who reported me was in town.

Am I being paranoid in thinking she only messaged to see if I was still there because my lovely "friend" was terrified to bump into me ?
This particular woman I've spoke too a handful of times.
So she had 0 reason for a catch up

(I did put this in paragraphs )
Not sure what's happened

I think you hit the nail on the head!

Doesn’t scream guilt to me. Maybe she simply didn’t want to see you.

You are overthinking this.

I know it was her who did it.
I know it was her who's said lots of awful untrue things about me.
She blocked me before I had a chance to speak my mind (a year ago )

You asked whether that one incident re Instagram screams guilt. I don’t think that one incident does.

I'm not angry anymore

You sound pretty angry! Why do you think she would be terrified to bump into you?
Are you known for your temper or something?
Let it go would be my advice and stop fantasizing about giving her a piece of your mind. It won't help you feel better.

I think you're overthinking this, to be honest.

It's possible your former friend doesn't want to see you, but I don't think that screams guilt. I think it screams 'I don't want to be around someone i don't like'. She's clearly nuts anyway so I wouldn't really pay any attention to any of this stuff.

Just to clarify I’m not questioning your other evidence, but someone asking you if you’re in town because she’s there too isn’t enough to go on, alone.

Also, for someone who isn't angry and has moved on, you do seem to be thinking about this an awful lot. I think perhaps your former friend's behaviour a year ago (which was obviously awful!) has affected you (understandably!) a lot more than you're admitting to yourself.

I'm the biggest push over you could meet.
I have no temper,even if I seen her out and about I wouldn't have the bottle to ask her why or even try and get a reason.
My thinking was a random woman who looks at my story daily (who I've spoke too around 3 times) messages asking if I'm in town for a drink (when I don't know her )
The exact same time I woman who did me v v dirty is in town and knows what she did.
Seems a bit of a coincidence.
I wouldn't message a random person asking if they were in town

I'm not angry anymore but I will always be upset about it.
There's times it pops in my head and I feel so sad a person went to such lengths to try and tarnish my name.
Then blocked me with no explanation why she hated me

It is a bit odd that a woman you barely know asked to meet up. It's possible she feels she knows you (after reading your instagram daily?) and would like to be friends. I don't use Instagram, it's weird that she's so interested isn't it?

Anyhow, I think you're right to give the awful woman and her close friends a wide berth. It might help to look at her behaviour as less of a personal attack and more an indication of her deep insecurities and jealousy issues.

She's proven herself to be manipulative and childish, steer clear and rise above it. If you did happen to bump into her, walk past with your head held high.

If you already know that it was her (by the phone number) then why does it matter if the Instagram message screams guilt? Let it go.

Why do you even have her friends on your Instagram? Block her and make it private surely?

I wouldn’t give this any headspace tbh, especially if you’re over it

I only kept her friend on to basically show that regardless of her attempts to basically "break me" I was okay and I was happy
Basically to prove a point really,as I knew this lady would be reporting back to her.

Then blocked me with no explanation why she hated me
People can dislike others for no reason or no rational reasons though, and you’ll tie yourself in knots of you constantly think about this. You have the power to simply stop caring about this.

@EcafTnuc I do agree but this was a friend who I had been friends with 14 years ,stayed over at my house every month /trips away etc
If it had been just a casual friend it wouldn't of hurt as bad.
Il admit I always had my doubts she even liked me as she would put me down etc
Try to make me look stupid in front of others but she was insecure so brushed it off

erm no - doesnt say anything like this to me

Have you posted quite a few times on this woman before?

@BrunoMadrigal as stated In my opening post I posted a year ago regarding the situation

It could well be that she was trying to find out where you were: it's very immature of her so I would just rise above it and ignore. Carry on with your life as you have been since and leave her to her childishness.

If you’re the poster I’m thinking of, who keeps posting about her, then you really need to move on and stop giving this woman any headspace.

I’ve been massively stabbed in the back by a friend, so I do understand, honestly, I do. But you need to move on and not let her and her actions distract you.

@BrunoMadrigal I will deffo try
Thankyou