Would you do this?

[Answermethis2022]

If/when you lose a loved one do you take their birthday out of your (electric shared with spouse) calendar?

Personally I would keep it in.

YABU - take out
YANBU - leave in

Surely you'd remember it so wouldn't need it there? It's for the person who's had the loss to remove it, though.

I'd leave it in. What harm does it do. I still have a deceased friends mobile number on my phone. I have no need for it but I can't bring myself to delete her number.

YANBU

depending on relative we might visit grave with flowers or otherwise just think of them that day.

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I would leave it in, like I leave people in my address book (handwritten one).

It’s my partner’s loved one so not a date I would remember as I didn’t know them long, but I would still want to know for DP and other members of the family.

I have quite a few now deceased loved ones numbers in my mobile. Their birthdays are also in my phone calendar. I couldn't imagine feeling the need to wipe them away and remove everything.

If its your dp's loved one then it's up to him/her whether the date is in the calendar.

I don’t share a calendar with my partner but I know my family’s and best friends’ birthdays and I don’t write them down anywhere.

I think it’s entirely up to the person whose loved one it is. If they find it comforting to keep it there, leave it. If they find it upsetting to see it, take it out.

I take them out but I'm not remotely sentimental. To me it's a meaningless date as they are not here to mark it. I remember them instead whenever they pop into my mind.

I still have 2 of my late friends numbers in my phone
It doesn't feel right to delete them somehow

I would leave it in. Also in my phone my parents number is still Mum and Dad, that's been out of date for a few years now.

My dad died 7 years ago, I still write him on the family calendar each year, would feel like writing out his existence not to for me.

I have a beloved now deceased relative's number in my phone, his address in my saved places, his address on my Amazon Prime address book. I would never delete any of them.

And I always remember his birthday as it falls on a very distinctive day on the calendar. 🖤