For my birthday my husband bought me a flight, return business class to go see my friend who lives in America. Lovely thought but I would never choose to go away from my children for 10 days. Whilst I appreciate his efforts to get me something lovely I feel so conflicted about that length of time away. It’s a long flight (12 hours ) so his reasonings is that I can have time there to get over the flight / jet lag and enjoy. My friend is so exited for me to go, none of our friendship circle have made it there to see her before because of children / money etc and has such nice things planned for us to do there, I know we’ll have an amazing time. I know I’m so lucky to have this opportunity but if I’d been asked before it was booked I would have gone for much less time, or maybe not at all. I think I can cope with tiredness and jet lag so a good few days less would be fine. I’m so worried flying far away and for so long from my children. They’re 9 and 13. The teenager is not bothered and in fact is looking forward to dad’s rules for 10 days. My youngest is very clingy to me since covid. He hates it if i go out for a few hours in the evening and sometimes cries if I go out. He’s going to hate me being away that length of time. My husband doesn’t get my concern. He works away a lot so is often away from the kids weeks on end. He wants me to experience flying long haul business class which I something I never get to do and with his job he does regularly.
so AIBU - yes - enjoy, the kids will be fine and soak up the opportunity and enjoy.
No - cancel the trip , 10 days is too long - at least reduce the time ! Think of your youngest !