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Why does he do this?

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Yorkshire1997 · 22/05/2022 17:04

Hi

does anybody have any idea why he keeps doing this to me. I am seeing a guy and he texts me then but when I reply he reads it and doesn’t respond and he keeps doing it. He used to text me a lot and it was always him texting first. He keeps texting me in the early hours too.

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Ponoka7 · 22/05/2022 17:13

He's hoping for a booty call. Or he likes to feed his ego by knowing that you'll accept this treatment. Why are you accepting this treatment?

Anon778833 · 22/05/2022 17:14

He’s trying to get you into a position where he has all the power and control in your relationship. He wants to keep you off balance so that you are constantly anxious about his feelings for you.

This isn’t healthy.

How long have you been together?

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Yorkshire1997 · 22/05/2022 18:24

He is being so up and down with me. It’s really getting me down as he won’t communicate as to why. I tried asking him and he said everything is fine and he would tell me if it wasn’t so it doesn’t make sense

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DrinkFeckArseBrick · 22/05/2022 18:44

Some people respond really slowly to messages.

But someone who used to respond quickly then stopped, has changed their feelings towards you, or is a player. Wither way you need to dump him. If you ask him again what's wrong he will turn it around you for being needy.

user1471457751 · 22/05/2022 18:47

Maybe he got annoyed at always being the one to message first so now he's playing games

Notaneffingcockerspaniel · 22/05/2022 18:47

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itsgettingweird · 22/05/2022 18:53

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This.

I've known males and females to do it in relationships and friendships.

It's about the control of knowing you'll reply and then waiting for the, to do the same.

Find someone normal and enjoy life!

SaggyBlinders · 22/05/2022 18:59

How long does he take to respond? Hours or days?

How long have you been seeing him? How often do you see each other?

What do you mean when you say he texts you early hours, like a booty call? Does he not ask you about your day, arrange dates etc?

He could just be busy, or he could be a dick who is playing games. Hard to know without more details. Texting frequency usually dies down after the first few weeks/months of seeing someone.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 22/05/2022 20:21

He's playing with you until you get to the stage where you are grateful for any communication from him.
Don't play the game

Unanananana · 22/05/2022 20:35

Sounds like he is breadcrumbing you in some form.

I wouldn't give him the satisfaction. Raise your bar and block the dipshit.

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