To ask if it’s ok to send pictures/videos

[Izzy24]

of the house/garden where you’re staying to other people ?

Why wouldn't it be?

What?

I can't see why not unless you are in witness protection.

I think it depends. If you're staying with someone then I think it's polite to ask before sharing photos of their home. If it's a holiday home then it's totally fine.

Think it depends.

“look how gorgeous this garden is” - fine
“look how hideous this wallpaper is”. Not fine.

is this a reverse?

More info needed. Is it a friend‘s house or an Airbnb? What kind of pictures and videos? Sending to who? Privately or publicly?

It's fine for people to send pictures taken in my house, but not of my rooms or things.

Of the house/garden where you’re staying at a friend’s house. Sorry, not very clear.

Hmm, I wouldn't like it if you did that as a guest in my home. Photos of us, rather than the home might be ok if you asked first. I wouldn't know you were doing it because I'm not on the usual social media sites, but it seems a bit weird to me. Why would you?

My daughter knows some people with very high end houses. I think she would expect to be blocked if she tried that stunt.

I wouldn't like it if someone took photos of my house and sent them to someone else.

I wouldn't like it no. If it were an air bnb that's a bit different. But if a guest in my house took photos and shared them I'd be annoyed.

I didn’t like it.

They didn’t ask.

It wouldn’t occur to me to do it , so it didn’t occur to me to say ‘oh btw, please don’t take any pictures to send them off to other people’.

I don’t ever post anything on SM. I just wondered if I was being unreasonable to dislike it and feel put out.

Did she put them on SM?! That would be even worse to me. My house is not a tourist attraction or space for public consumption.

How did you find out they'd done that? Who took the pics, family member?

I overheard them on the phone saying they had sent pictures. And then they said. ‘ X said they wondered what happens at the end of the garden so I sent them a video’.

Family member visiting from overseas with whom I have a difficult relationship….

I hope not!

How rude

Thank you.

It’s really helpful to know that other people think it’s not okay too.

No.my mum has friends who have a fabulous and architecturally unusual house. I'm keen on house design and would love to see it but live in the wrong country. Mum would still never take photos of friends house or ask to because that would be rude and odd.

I think it's really weird and I would be a bit taken aback of you took pictures of my house and out them on social media it's different if it's a photo of you in the garden etc but just photos of the house itself is weird

Ah I see they are visiting from abroad ...then I think it's ok they are just taking holiday pics

In general, this would be considered very rude. But what is the exact context here?

Is this an MIL who is sending a pic to your DH's sibling, saying 'Look what a great house your brother has?'

How does that make it OK? Just because it's another country? They should ask first.

Family snaps are ok.
Shots of my bathroom, lake, kitchen, Garden, swimming pool and nuttery would annoy me , particularly as I'd not want them uploaded to the web.
( And no, I don't have a pool , lake or nuttery but it sounds like the person who has been taking the shots is so impressed as to want to share their images.)

I'd actually be rather cross.

No, not family snaps. Just my home/garden.

It just felt so intrusive. And really rude not to ask. But if they had asked I would have wanted to say no. And they wouldn’t have accepted that so 🤷‍♀️