SOS if you're a 34 year old mum with 1 toddler and 1 baby what do you want for your birthday around £150 aibu that I can't think of anything

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Just that really I can't think of a single thing

What kind of stuff does your daughter like?
Fancy bubble bath and skincare? Nice make up? New clothes? A meal out?

I'm a similar age with young kids, but with simple tastes. I'd be over the moon with £150 worth of books and nice chocolate 😁

Time. Preferably time alone.

If you can, I'd link up with her partner if she has one and lock him in for childcare and get her a spa day with nice lunch or a night in a hotel near them.

I asked for a spa treatment from my lovely PIL one Christmas, they gave me a voucher for the local posh hotel and explained it was enough for a treatment for me one day and then if I wanted I could take DH for afternoon tea on a nursery day another time. It was very much appreciated.

The money (and a babysitter) so I could go out shopping and have lunch. Could her dh babysit?

The fact that I happen to possess a functional uterus has never really had much influence on my tastes. I like the things I like because I like them, not because I fairly recently expelled a human. I have always hated candles, wax melts and gin, for instance. You need to ask your actual DD or someone who actually knows her, not someone who happens to vaguely fit into the same demographic.

I don't know. My feelings on candles are unchanged, but time is definitely more of a factor than it used to be. So gifts that give me a bit of time off by myself are more appreciated than pre children, and gifts that need a load of energy and input from me less so.

Spa day. Anywhere peaceful basically…

A wine decanter, a cheese board and a new coffee pod machine ☺️ this is what I've asked for, for mine

A lovely cashmere sweater ,some perfume maybe ,Hotel Chocolat .You sound like a great Mum .I in common with above pp ,dislike candles and gin!

Chococo chocolate and a very good bottle of wine. Or if I didn't have one a decent coffee machine.

AirPods? Voucher for a nice hairdressers?

If she doesn't already have one, receiving a kindle to make reading easier during night feeds, plus a Kindle unlimited subscription, would have made my birthday at the same stage.

Enjoy your spa day when you get to see each other!

Have you actually asked her what she would like?

Ha! I was about to get annoyed that you said that her functioning uterus didn't affect her taste! Of course it doesn't but as many posters have said it might have influenced what I gave her. She does need time off etc and it's very hard to buy her something for her specifically like vouchers in case she spends them on my DGC. But! Having read your post I remembered that she loves Fat Face so I've sent her a £150 voucher for them! So thank you and thanks so much to everyone for the suggestions I will keep them for Christmas

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I'd like some one to take my kids and let me have a long facial and a few hours to myself. Then meet up and take us out (or make it) for tea.

Am deffo getting the kimono for Christmas for her and I'm going to get a bag erm for me!

Top of my list would be a spa day and afternoon tea second would be dinner with dh and an offer of babysitting and or a night in a hotel. I'd be happy with jewellery too but would probably want to choose that myself as I'm quite particular.

A piano

£150 book token please.

Leather bomber jacket?

The best present I ever bought someone was a cleaner. They loved it, said it was life changing. I signed up to a website and deposited money - they then selected the cleaner and frequency. Or maybe a baby sitter - some one who can do a one afternoon a week - so she can go for a swim , go for lunch with a friend…

Yeah, stage of life and disruption thereof does have some role to play in bringing tastes forward or backwards, obviously. Someone newly pregnant is probably not going to love a gin-tasting workshop and I wouldn't have thanked you for an elaborate craft kit when I had a newborn. But I was still basically the same person. I love spa days, but plenty of people on here hate them and always have. Time away from the kids is a great gift for any mother of young'uns, except when it's the subject of a thread named "DM is trying to bully me into leaving my baby, AIBU to think she should mind her own business??!?"

Dyson hairdryer!

This is what I was going to say

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