Are wedding anniversaries personal?

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Do you acknowledge anyone else's wedding anniversary? Would you note the date of the wedding anniversary of your son/daughter and send them a message to wish them a happy anniversary?
MIL always sends us a message on our anniversary but my parents never acknowledge it.

My parents and in-laws both send cards to us, and sometimes a “year theme” present.
I don’t mark the occasion of anyones except our own, apart from parents big ones (eg 40 years they had a party).

When I was a young teen I once bought my parents an anniversary card, feeling very grown-up and pleaded with myself, and DM basically looked at me weirdly and said “what did you buy that for?”. So clearly I’ve never done it since!

No, all families are different but my family wouldn’t send a card for a wedding anniversary as a general rule. Maybe if it was a milestone one - 25, 40, 50? But not usually.

I think that's a bit sad. We mark both of ours, civil and non, in some way

I think its personal. I wouldn't expect anyone to remember my anniversary. I don't know anyone else's tbf.

In-laws send a card my parents don’t. I don’t send any cards for others anniversary’s.

I think you've read too much into it because of other people and you're expecting something that most people don't.

Your mum might be an arse, but this isn't why she's not acknowledging your wedding anniversary - unless you say she made a huge fuss for your siblings anniversaries.

I'd prefer not to, unless I'm invited for celebration of big anniversary or so. Unfortunately, in my family, we tend to text each other or send cards on every single anniversary. I hate it. For me, it's very personal celebration. I know if I break this tradition now, everyone will be upset, so I just do it :|

MIL always sends a card, I can barely remember when it is and my parents definitely don't. I would do for a big one if I had been invited to something to remind me!

I think anniversaries are personal between the couple. Unless it's a special one and the couple are having a party then i wouldn't buy cards or gifts. I would comment on someone's social media post to congratulate them as they've chosen to share it and it's the nice thing to do.

Given that we’ve been known to forget it I don’t expect anyone else to remember. One of my friends always sends a card which is very sweet but also slightly worrying as I haven’t got the foggiest when her anniversary is.

I always send a card on the first anniversary if I've been to the wedding, but beyond that I don't do anything for other people.

MIL sends us a card every year but DM doesn't acknowledge it. It's not something I get vexed about really. We barely recognise it ourselves.

My mum has made a few comments over the years about us not sending her a card for her wedding anniversary, but I just don’t really get why it’s important. I suppose I should to make her happy, but it just seems too much because then I would have to start sending them to my brother and his wife too.

I send cards and presents for big anniversaries and 1st wedding anniversaries, but every year seems excessive when you have birthdays and Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Christmas etc.

I think sometimes my parents or ILs acknowledge ours, but otherwise it's between ourselves.

As adults siblings and I will note our parents', but probably not with more than a message on WhatsApp.

I constantly get it in the neck for not sending cards and present for my DSis wedding anniversary and my parents. My parents didn't get each other a present so i didn't see why I should.
For my DSis I'd rather not acknowledge it, as Bro in law can be a dick!

I think it is a personal thing between the couple, that I don't need to celebrate, a card just seems like well done on sticking to your wedding vows.

I've been with my DP 10 years, not married, I don't expect a card every year.

^This

I’ve helped friends and family celebrate “important” anniversaries (silver, gold) and we had a party for our silver anniversary (and specified it was simply an excuse for a party so no presents please). Usually we don’t take any notice of our anniversary but we might do something for our 50th (horrifyingly not too far away).

I remember DD's and send them a card.

I would love for someone to remember ours and send a card, it's our first this weekend but DH died in Feb so I suspect that if anyone does remember they may feel awkward about sending a card so won't.

DM used to send us a card when she was alive. MIL now sends a text on family WhatsApp which then prompts other family members. I’ll text people congratulations if the da ye triggers my memory. Nothing more though, so t do actual cards or gifts. Would send a card to my DC if they get married.

My husbands parents and their friends send us a card each year which I think is bloody weird (when we dont actually have anything to do with them because of his moms terrible behaviour) so I don't put them up as I think it's personal... my mom will send a text which I think is plenty

Sorry @bloodywhitecat 💐

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I don't do anything for anyone else's. I bought my mum a gift for her 30th anniversary because she got really upset that me and my siblings hadn't acknowledged it.

I cook lobster on our anniversary and we chill with wine and a film but we don't do cards or anything

I send a card for the first anniversary if I've been to the wedding, and I've sent special year ones to my parents. I would usually WhatsApp a message on normal years I expect.

We get about 4 every year, 2 from slightly elderly wedding guests who always remember, my mum and my dad.

Yes they are personal, with the possible exception of the 1st anniversary and 50th.

Personal celebration only imo.

Unless it's a party for a silver/gold anniversary.