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Too far?

13 replies

Rosebel · 19/05/2022 21:49

Where I work it's quite pressured especially for managers and team leaders. I have been there nearly 4 years and in that time 6 manager's have come and gone along with numerous team leaders.
Every manager is always determined to make a real go of getting the department to the highest standard possible. This is obviously their job but clearly none of them can take the pressure.
New manager has some very strange ideas about how to get the best out of her staff. Her first idea was to ban us from using the toilet apart from break time. Obviously most people do go then anyway but sometimes you need to go at other times. She realised quickly that that policy wouldn't work so it's not enforced but you ge moaned at if you go for a wee.
As of today she's decided colleagues are not allowed to talk to each other apart from break time. We all work independently but might have a quick chat in the morning or in passing during the day.
I get that she's under pressure and really wants to make a go of the department but I know I'm not being unreasonable to think she's going about it wrong.
Depression and stress is incredibly high in the whole company but it's worse on our department.
I feel as do others that she's gone too far.
Would love some independent views though and any advice on how to deal with the situation.
Feels like we're being treated like children or prisoners or something.

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Greensleeves · 19/05/2022 21:51

Who the hell does she think she is? It's a place of work, not a Victorian workhouse! Fuck that noise. I would be making a formal complaint to whoever is responsible for her. And probably looking for another job.

AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 19/05/2022 21:55

Yes, it's a shame - people have to be treated like adults and trusted not to take the mick, like coming in late, 15 minute smoking breaks, or always making private phone calls kind of thing. But normally if someone does that it would be noticed anyway. Treating people like adults and independent thinkers is the way to get the best out of them. Your manager is mistaken, IMO.

Jjnbftgkhfrvjudv · 19/05/2022 21:59

Not allowed to go to the toilet!!?? How strange - she must have been a school teacher in her previous jobs.

Corcory · 19/05/2022 22:00

I've been a manager of a large furnishing store and i can tell you you don't get the best out of people by banning things, the best way to get the best out of your staff is positive encouragement, making the team feel like she is part of that team and you want to work for her and the company not the other way around.

Aquamarine1029 · 19/05/2022 22:03

For Pete's sake, get a new job. Your company sounds like it's a disaster.

legalseagull · 19/05/2022 22:12

Wow I'd make a formal complaint about this. All the staff will leave if she doesn't pack it in.

legalseagull · 19/05/2022 22:12

I'd also completely ignore her 'rules'

Testina · 19/05/2022 22:14

So I can tell you why you have a high turnover: your company have no fucking clue how to recruit competent leaders.

Rosebel · 19/05/2022 22:15

Oh I'm looking for a new job, as is about 80%of the people I work with. It used to be a really lovely department great manager when I first started but since he left it's got worse and worse.

But these new rules just seem too much

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Discovereads · 19/05/2022 22:16

Id leave the company. They’re obviously hiring mates to be managers who don’t have a clue how to lead people.

Darbs76 · 19/05/2022 22:18

She’s going to alienate her whole team pretty fast. This is not the approach to take but she will learn this pretty quickly

Verbena87 · 19/05/2022 22:21

“Not allowed to go to the toilet!!?? How strange - she must have been a school teacher in her previous jobs.”

I am an actual school teacher and I don’t even run my classroom this way (too many memories of erratic teenage period misery with stubborn teachers who wouldn’t let me out of the class). Ask her for her well-being policy? And/or get another job and get out.

PinkWisteria · 19/05/2022 22:35

We had a manager a bit like this - tried to introduce set tea break times rather than getting a drink as and when, rota for what time you were allowed to go for lunch and toilet trips only during break/lunchtimes. As the majority of the team did planned and emergency home visits this regime was totally inappropriate. We decided to follow her rules and added a couple of our own - arrived exactly on time, took full hour for lunch and left on the dot of 5pm, no goodwill flexibility. She withdrew her rules after 2 weeks.

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