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Bullying

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Crabchowder · 19/05/2022 21:41

My child is 6 years old. In February we spoke to the teacher regarding his ‘friend’ saying mean things and generally being horrible to him, constantly at school. Singling him out from the friendship group and telling him to go and play elsewhere, that he isn’t liked, no one wants to play with him etc. The school kept an eye on things for us and on the surface all seemed okay-ish, but for the last month or so the nastiness seems relentless. We spoke to the teacher again last week who has been supportive and spoken to my son who confirmed the other child isn’t being kind. School have suggested doing some kind of empowerment ‘course’ so he knows how to handle the situation a bit better. But for the second night this week I have had an inconsolable child at bedtime, last week it was exactly the same, perhaps even three out of the five nights he was upset. When is enough enough? I get teaching him to handle the situation but he is six and surely the other child should be accountable for being horrible and challenged on it. I’m sick with worry this will continue throughout the rest of his time at primary school. He loves school but this child is making him thoroughly miserable and my heart breaks for him. How can this be handled? I’m feeling so pissed off.

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Crabchowder · 20/05/2022 06:30

Morning, can anyone help with some advice please?

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LucyLocketLostThePlot · 20/05/2022 06:53

Have a look on the school's website for their policies. There should be one on bullying.

If you agree either it, speak to the school again and ask them to implement it.

If you don't agree with it, then have a look at some other ones until you find one you like and then speak to the school to see if you can get theirs updated.

Philisophigal · 20/05/2022 06:58

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failing40s · 20/05/2022 07:08

Agree read the bullying policy, then you need to speak to school again and this time in much stronger terms. Send and email this morning and ask for an urgent appointment to discuss in more detail. Say that you are worried this is sustained and ongoing behaviour from one child and as per the schools bullying policy you want them to do x,y,z (whatever it says they will do in the policy). Also add any other possible solutions you think they should explore/implement.

Hope your little boy is ok.

RedHelenB · 20/05/2022 08:07

I think "empowerment " couse would be worthwhile. The other little boy needs to be told not to say kean things but he can't be forced to play either your ds either, only encouraged to be kind I would ask some of the "kinder" boys over for playmates, to encourage better friendships.

mumonthehill · 20/05/2022 08:16

Although I think the empowerment course is good it should only be done if the other child is doing a kindness course. It is not up to your dc to learn to be resilient to bullying, it is up to the school to stop the bullying. It frustrates me that schools try and make the bullied do things to cope rather than actually deal with the root cause of the bullying especially when your dc is so young.

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