Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

[TulaOfDarkWater]

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget

1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known

1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

I'd tell Anne if she is only contributing a free promotional voucher then her name is not going on the gift, she has given no money at all towards it. Maybe the person who also has a voucher could send it to Anne, you all pay £112 and all is square, the gift is then not from Anne she has contributed nothing ans she can sort out her own present.

I have to say, the fact she even thought that was OK would be a deal breaker for me.

This is 5 adults
Close friends for decades
with one of them supposedly trying to “fleece” them at every opportunity
but nothing has ever been done about it. Instead the others just get “massively pissed off”

does that honestly sound normal to you?

Jealous much!? It would be the same principle if it was a £50 gift.

Anne is a CF, that's it.

So cheeky!!!!

Im all for keeping the peace with your friend who is unwell, however, your CF Anne just wants to fleece you all. That is not acceptable at all.

Do as suggested, email her another voucher and say £112 each as discussed. END OF DISCUSSION!

Then ditch CF from your friendship group.

Surely if you're all longstanding good friends you'd just go 'Oi Anne, you're being a cheeky fucker, here's the £112 as agreed'. And everyone would laugh and take the piss out her a bit for being a cheeky fucker.

Or is that just me and my mates.

Agree to £112 from everyone or return & get it from the first place. Also let Anne know in no uncertain terms that she's a CF

This.

Ah seems there was miscommunication Anne.
We can't afford £140so if you return yours we'll buy the original version, can you send me over your £100.

If this is a good group of mates and usually Anne isn't a CF I would pm her instead, make it clear it's her error but ask if she's struggling for money atm

Biggest cheeky fucker ever

I would want to know why Anne thought you could magic £140 out of thin air when she knew you don’t have that money.

I would say that as discussed and agreed you will send the £112. As also discussed I don’t have the £140 so I am unsure why you would think I have.

Personally I wouldn’t have agreed to spend an extra £60 on an exact same item just because someone had a voucher.

Vouchers are irrelevant if they end up costing you more

I wonder if there are any point schemes that Anne now has an extra 700

Personally I wouldn’t have agreed to spend an extra £60 on an exact same item just because someone had a voucher.

It wasn't the exact same item though

Just seen it is the deluxe version

It would have to do something amazing and worthwhile to still spend £60 more.

Everyone was happy with the £500 version.

Don’t want to rain on anyones parade but when dh was ill and having chemo it was something he was told to cut back on or give up.
He took up juicing in the morning instead.
Check that coffee doesn’t give side effects to the treatment your friends is receiving

Anne is a CF.

Everyone should send her the amount they agreed and she will just have to suck it up.

Wow what a blooming cheek? she is no friend to do this. I'd tell her to jog on that is simply outrageous...what are the rest of the group saying? I'd not call her a friend...

I'd insist on it being sent back and going for Option A.

Wow really is some level of cheekiness!!!

Similar here!

I have a friend that did this! Went out for a meal. She had a 25% voucher off a restaurant (you got to pick a ticket when you go and she “won” 25% off food) she tried to use it to pay for all her food and drink (not covered by the voucher) and she had a bottle of wine to herself. The restaurant often does these vouchers and we have always used them to reduce the bill for everyone in previous times. She was not happy!

Don’t want to rain on anyones parade but when dh was ill and having chemo it was something he was told to cut back on or give up.
He took up juicing in the morning instead.
Check that coffee doesn’t give side effects to the treatment your friends is receiving

Absolutely this.

I agree completely.

Continuing a long term friendship with someone who is a CF and likes to take advantage of her friends at any opportunity?

Why on earth would you hang out with someone who would do this more than once?

Baffling.

She is so obviously a scammer, why would you want someone so dishonest in your close circle.

Genuinely baffling.

I would want to know why Anne thought you could magic £140 out of thin air when she knew you don’t have that money.

I would say that as discussed and agreed you will send the £112. As also discussed I don’t have the £140 so I am unsure why you would think I have.

Not sure if I missed something, but as I understood it, it wasn't the case of not having the money (I can't imagine they're all on their uppers if they'd agreed to spend that much in the first place), but just that a budget had been set that everybody considered a reasonable amount to spend, which they were later willing to exceed by 12% but not by 40%.

She is so obviously a scammer, why would you want someone so dishonest in your close circle.

I can't remember who originally said it, and about whom, but I'm reminded of that quote from a long time ago: "The louder he talked of his honour, the faster we counted our spoons"

How cheeky!!!! Definitely send the £112, that was what was agreed. Simple.

Hi Anne

I thinks there’s been a misunderstanding here.

I agreed to your idea of buying the deluxe version to avail of a voucher so we EACH pay a little more for a nicer gift.

I was not so that I pay a lot more so that you can opt out of paying anything.

I would suggest that you return the deluxe version and we’ll revert to purchasing the original gift between us all.

Be wary of transferring the money to her. I’d be worried about her excuse to keep some of it - for return costs or something else equally bollocks