So long story short. 2kids, 1dad. He left before youngest was 1. Now 5. I gave him the option of paying for them or taking them 3 nights per week rather than 2,which he choose. And I was happy to accept this arrangement.
He has just informed me of a new job, and with less than 24 hours notice wants to completely overhaul the routine our kids have just settled into. Just settled into because of the last new job he had in which I was supportive, surrendering any weekend time I had and only having them weekdays. So I missed out on quality time, but again I wanted to be supportive.
It didn't work out and I asked to return to the routine we have had since we were separated. This routine ensures we both actively participate in their school lives as well as having weekend time to create memories. So we returned to this routine. And today he decided we were changing it again.
The job is not the issue. The issue is he expects me to pick up the responsibility without any discussion or notice. But when I need the kids watched for something I can't rely on him even with notice, I have to ask family or friends. Or arrange childcare. So why shouldn't this apply to him on the days he is responsible for them?
So my question is AITA for expecting him to make plans on the days he knows he has the kids and not wanting to pick up his slack?