DH was treated pretty appallingly by his ex wife in terms of infidelity. Numerous affairs, ONS, including some after they tried to make it work again after separating. They were together for 10 years and had DC.
He has some insecurity issues due to this and I do understand. We've come a long way since we've been together (6 years and DC together).
He used to get worried if I went out on nights out, it would cause arguments. Told him back then I wouldn't accept that/be punished for her behaviour and his issues and to be fair to him he worked hard (saw a counselor etc..) and we've moved past that and generally he is pretty laid back now about things... Or so I thought.
Anyway, I've been invited on holiday with a couple of friends. It's to a well known 'clubbing' place however that's not the part we'd be staying in nor would we be doing that all holiday! (I like my bed after 10pm since the DC 🤣).
He's started up again saying he doesn't want me to go, thinks couples shouldn't go on these holidays once they are married, worried about something happening etc etc. I think this is a big thing as one of the times his ex cheated was on a holiday she said she was with someone else on but she'd actually gone with another guy so it's obviously a sore point.
Anyway.. basically AIBU to say whilst I understand his worry, I'm still going. I do not expect my life to be restricted because his ex was a twat, I am not her and if he doesn't trust me by now then that's not my problem?