To ask for advice on who to invite

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So we are wanting to get the dc baptised in summer, atm we are torn between inviting everyone and hiring somewhere for after or just doing it with the god parents only!

Our families on both sides are quite complicated so more than likely will go with just the god parents but if we decide to go the other way I am stuck who to invite as my DM has a restraining order against my DF

It doesn't end until October and my dad won't go if she is there as she can technically ring the police and have him arrested!!

Just for a bit of context she got the restraining order because be shouted at her, after they separated. His solicitor said he wouldn't win so he accepted the order but not the allegations. In my opinion they are as bad as each other!

sounds messy- just god parents and a lunch with them after sounds good.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers this is what I was thinking but DH said we will see nearer the time! I just don't want any drama as for be its about the DC and no one else.

I would just do it with the god parents and then have a lunch. It's the baptism that's important

@ginslinger yes exactly!

Just do it for the godparents.it sounds like too much stress to do anything else and will only put a dampner on the day.

What about the other grandparents though? Are they being left out because of your family problems? Seems a bit unfair to me

Unless you are happy for just one parent to attend and it won’t cause a huge argument I’d go just god parents. It’s the baptism that matters so I wouldn’t cause a fall out for it.

@airrrrAIRRRRiELLLL DH does not want them there unfortunately!

So neither of your parents can be in invited? Your DH doesn't want his parents there and your parents have a restraining order between them. Accept that you've both been very unlucky in what family you were both born into and do the christening just you and godparents. It must be very hard, seeing other people play happy families on big occasions but we all have problems in one area or another, these have been the cards dealt to you unfortunately. It's a bit shit but sounds like you have a happy family of your own so focus on that and don't add any stress to what is supposed to be a wonderful day for you and your baby. Congrats!