To think I’m being a fool

[Kaylasmum49]

I split with my abusive ex almost a year ago and decided to join a dating site 4 months ago. I’ve chatting to a guy for 3 months now, sometimes quite intimately. He seems really lovely but we live 70 miles apart, we both drive so it wouldn’t be too difficult to meet up.

I have suggested a few times about meeting and he says he wants to but he won’t actually agree on a time to meet. He says that he needs to feel comfortable with me before we meet and that he finds it difficult to meet new people, which I understand and respect.

so I’m getting the feeling that I’m being strung along and that he has no intention of ever meeting me. Does it seem like my thinking could be true.

It’s a harsh truth but people who WANT to meet up WILL meet up.

I’ve chatted with people like that. I now have a rule of not chatting for longer than four or five days.

Three months is a long time ! I agree that either he doesn't want to meet you (maybe he's lied on his profile and doesn't want you to find out until you're "hooked" and he has a chance to reel you in) or he just can't be bothered. Either way I'd ditch him, sorry.

He’s married

He's comfortable enough to have phone/text sex but not to meet for a coffee? Nah, move on.

After three months you would be wanting to say if you are compatible in the flesh and 70 miles really isn't that far to check each other out.

There is a reason he doesn't wanna mate and I am guessing that business because he already is married or has a partner.

I did a very very short burst of old (date 2 is DH). The MN advice I read then was to meet them ASAP before you built them into something they were t. And to see if they were just doing it an ego boost / were not really available. Throw this one back.

He is in a relationship up and is just on an ego trip by playing you.

Thanks for all your replies. Everyone seems to think the same really.