how would you read this conversation?

[Musingsofthemind]

A: DC needs is out of bits for lunch
B: what do you mean?
A: We need ham, and cheese. So can you go down and get some?
B: in a bit
A: We need baccy as well
B: okay
A: Well, Are you doing anything time-critical? What time are you going? Cos if its in like an hour, then I will go.
B: Well I want to get changed, finish this article I am reading, put shoes on. Not long.
A:Fine, I'll go <angry>
B:I said I would go. Why is bits time-critical, as long as it's before bedtime?
A: cant you see not giving a time is stressful for our 12yr old dc?
B: I said I would go
A: you never said yes
B: Literally said "in a bit" which is a yes
A: no, its fine, its obviously too hard as you have to get changed <angrily said sarcastically> <storms out of door>

A is being unreasonable.

A really needed baccy.

Like was out of baccy.

A needs to calm down! But as pp said they needed a fag!

A is in a bad mood and wanted things done immediately though why seems unclear.

B didn't understand why they needed to jump up and do something straight away.

A is being a martyr

Think A sounds like in a bad mood, could have said in first message that it needs to be done quickly.

Seems like an over reaction from A.

A was being a nag and why can't a 12yo wait for 30 mins?

Why didn't A just go?

A totally out of order.
B could have been a bit more helpful.
I can’t see why DC needed a time commitment to any of it and I think A was using them as an excuse.

Aww. Back in the 70s you could have sent the 12 year old down the shops for some shit lunch and mum's fags, leaving the parents at home to carry on their pass-agg bickering. Progress is a funny thing.

I don’t know which way round your voting works, but A is being unreasonable.

Thank you all for your responses. I thought I was going mad.

DH is in a bad mood, he generally is at this time of night, and argumentative.

Yes, possibly could have been more helpful, but I honestly didn't see why it needed doing RIGHT NOW as opposed to when I got dressed.

12 yr old does like doing their lunch themselves, but like I said it could have been at any point before bedtime.

They are both back now. The shop is only minutes away. DC has shown me their completed lunch. All good on that front, they weren't overly stressed at all.

DH however has not spoken to me but my phone just pinged with a text saying he forgot the baccy so can I please go out and get it. <eye roll> Off I go.

AFTER getting changed.

I get frustrated when husband says he's going to do something and then either makes no attempt at doing it any time soon or faffs around for an hour to go the shop which is a 1 minute walk away. So I can understand A. But then again, they asked B when they were in the middle of doing something so can understand that too. No one is really unreasonable.

I'd have told him to go and get his own baccy. I bet he 'forgot' it on purpose.

A is being unreasonable

I think the 12 year-old is the most mature of the three of you by some distance.

Wouldn’t do any harm to knock the ‘baccy’ on the head either with a child in the house.

Why didn’t he just go to the bloody shop himself? Why are you expected to drop everything the second he makes a demand?

Definitely this.

I don’t understand why he told you you needed to get the items - why couldn’t he have just gone himself or said I can’t be bothered to go do you mind?

You sound like the hired helped. If he wants something he can go and get it himself.

Do you smoke?
If not do not get it for him.

A is unreasonable. - unless there is a history of saying "in a minute" sounded like they were desperate for fags tho, in which case they need to go and get them.