Scenario 1: I took baby to an event in a children's centre for the first time. Baby was a bit upset in the morning and we only arrived 40 minutes before the closure. We still had a lovely time. Baby fussed a bit and the organiser offered him a rice cake which magically calmed him down. She said because I contacted her that we were coming she bought this baby food for us. I expressed my appreciation kindly. Then this woman commented that when they organise events they just ask parents to bring their own snacks. Then she kept going: "These little packs are quite expensive". The organiser said she doesn't mind. Then she kept going: "But they do add up don't they?" I started to realise she was targeting at me. The organiser said again she doesn't mind. My baby only had two of these rice cakes and it took me one hour to get here, although I said nothing. At the end, she again tried to hurry us up to leave and said next time try to be early, these people need to go home.
I didn't know how to come back at the time as it took me a while to realise she was targeting me and to be honest it was a bit hard to believe as well. It however stuck with me afterwards. I don't know how to come back at comments like that.
Scenario 2: I was pushing the pram on a quiet road where there are parked cars everywhere, I was wheeling on the right side waiting for a gap of parked cars to go to the pavement. There was no upcoming traffic until a woman with a skateboard bike came along. She shouted as she was avoiding me: you do realise you're not a car?! I found her a bit ridiculous, she is not a car either but we all have rights to use the road don't we? Then she shouted again after having passed, get off the road! Again, I don't know how to come back to it although I find it really rude. I don't want to disturb baby so I said nothing. It stuck with me though until this very day.
Scenario 3: I took baby to a class where I left baby for a bit and a girl came to him and they were interacting quite close when I was back. I stopped my baby touching the girl's face several times but he kept going. Then he tried to grab her clothes at the shoulder and I was busy pulling his hands away. Her mum finally appeared and swiftly pulled the girl off by arms and turned away without talking to me, she commented at the girl: are you still alive?!
I don't think the girl was even touched and she did not try to get away from my boy and there's an adult watching to make sure they're safe. Then it happened the second time in the session as the other mum was too busy chatting with other mums her girl came to me to play with us. She took her away abruptly again although later I saw her girl getting very close to the babies whose mum she was chatting to. I'm new to the class, but I felt a bit strange this mum did not have the courtesy to even say hello to me. Or should I have said something? I didn't find any opportunities. I did tell her the second time when she was taking her kid that I'll make sure she's safe. I was obviously ignored.